Think my head is going to pop, really feel stuck and not at all sure what to do...
Quick recap: My DH and I have agreed that the marriage is over. I instigated it about 8 months ago as have lost (never really had) a physical attraction for him amongst other things. We are pretty good friends, atmosphere at home is ok, no ea etc.
He has said he wont leave the children (we have 3 under 9yrs). Hes a very good father and i hope we could parent 50/50 so maybe he might come round eventually. I am a sahm but looking for a job so i can eventually afford my own place and go from there etc.
In the meantime, we are still sharing a bed, albeit on totally opposite sides of it for the last year. I am starting to tell friends and family that it is not good and won't mend but don't think he is telling anyone other than bare basics to his family. Feels like we agree we are over but nothing else is happening.
I want to suggest we go into separate bedrooms but have the feeling it will go down like the biggest lead balloon in history. seeing know what the right thing to do is whilst not going mad in my head. We get on ok so is this me being petty and it wont actually achieve much other than antagonise him? Or do I just need to get a grip and assert myself?! How much can we move if we are stuck in the same house for the forseeable future? Could this be the key to us starting to live our own lives a bit more convincingly?
Hope this makes sense and sorry for the waffle. Any ideas or feedback massively welcome
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Lostwithoutacompass · 15/05/2013 18:42
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