I got home from work and ex P is here with DS. I had said it was ok for him to spend time with DS at mine because he's broke (again) and so had nothing to feed him at his. I also felt a bit bad for him as he's just been made redundant.
Anyway, first thing he says is that he's pulled a muscle playing a game last night. You know the game where you have to pick a cardboard box up off the floor with no hands. A party game. So, my immediate thought is you're broke, you're needing to look for a job but you're partying on a Monday night. I had called him at 3pm today to check if he was still collecting DS from school as arranged and he definitely sounded like I had woken him up.
I said that explained why he sounded so groggy earlier, the party. He protested it wasn't a party, it was just him and his flatmates and a couple glasses of wine.
I said it sounded like a party to me and that I found it frustrating that he wasn't being more active looking for a job, especially when he had borrowed money off me the other day. This caused him to fly off the handle and say he was in bed but doing his CV and emailing. He then said he didn't need this and started to leave. This of course caused DS to get upset and I am not entirely sure what happened next but the row escalated with him shouting and swearing, DS ran to bathroom and I told ex P to get out, I had had enough of helping him out and him taking the piss. He told me I was a horrible horrible person and when I tried to put my point forward he started dry humping my front door in a demonstration of I presume total disdain for what I had to say. So I told him to stop being such a child and to get out, he wasn't welcome in my house ever again.
DS was really really upset due to the swearing and fact his dad just upped and left during their time together. I could have handled it better couldn't I? I feel terrible DS had to hear it because I lost my temper.
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mervynmouse · 14/05/2013 19:27
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