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Should I leave my husband??

(8 Posts)
Rcm25 Tue 14-May-13 18:56:09

I have had a horrible couple of days and would love some neutral 3rd party advice as I am so conflicted. I found out on Sunday my husband is on a GPS social networking site which uses your position to find people geographically close to you to talk to. Within this site you can join certain groups so it can show you people with similar interests. This wasn't so much of a problem as I trusted my husband completely but the groups he has joined are over 30's singles, 20's and 30s singles, black singles, partyers, I love Latinos etc and all the people he has been talking to are single women. I have seen messages from at least 5 women where both the lady and my husband call each other sexy or cutie. we have been together for 6 years and have two children together but he has cheated on me twice before in the first 2 yrs of our relationship. I confronted him about this and he said he must have clicked on those groups by accident. When he realised I wasn't buying it he admitted he was in the wrong and was sorry. I only have proof he was making himself available to other women but he could very well have cheated physically for all I now know. He never wears his wedding ring but I hadn't thought anything of it until now. I feel so angry with him and I don't know what to do now. It completely blind sighted me as i thought we had perfect marriage and were very happy. How will I ever trust him again? I flip from feeling so angry and betrayed i want to hit him to feeling like i am over reacting and shouldnt ruin my childrens happy home. Should i get over it? Should I just leave?? What would you do???

KatieScarlett2833 Tue 14-May-13 19:03:08

That really depends on whether or not you want to live with a shagger.
To live every day wondering what he's up to. Going through the endless cycle of discovery, recrimination, apology, affair, discovery....
Some women live like this.
I couldn't.

Fairenuff Tue 14-May-13 19:05:08

Should i get over it? Should I just leave?? What would you do???

Get over the fact that he's cheated on you? That's not going to be so easy, even if you want to.

He cheated early in your relationship and you stayed with him. He's cheated again and if you still stay with him there is every chance he will continue like this. If you keep accepting it, he is likely to keep doing it.

Personally I would separate. Have you got some rl support?

Rcm25 Tue 14-May-13 19:08:22

We live with his parents and my family are all miles away. I spent last night at my sisters but she has her own children so me and my two sons slept on one sofa and its not feasible with my boys schooling etc. sad

Fairenuff Tue 14-May-13 19:10:32

I think you should get some legal advice and find out what you would be entitled to. Do you work?

Madlizzy Tue 14-May-13 19:12:02

If I were in your position, I'd be looking at trying to get my own place without him.

Rcm25 Tue 14-May-13 19:12:13

No sad sahm

Fairenuff Tue 14-May-13 19:19:42

If you want to leave, you will find a way. You shouldn't have to stay with someone who treats you badly.

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