I've recently been diagnosed with endometriosis and the past two days I've been in a lot of pain - crying with it this morning and yes, I've been feeling sorry for myself.
Last week too my doctor brought me in as my smear test came back abnormal - nothing too much to worry about now but I have potentially precancerous cells - the doc says more than likely my body will get rid of it on its own so I know I'm fine but I was stressed about it.
My h has been good throughout this, got up & took care of ds this morn when I was in pain and has said 'I'm sorry you're feeling bad' but doesn't really want to be around me, feel I'm annoying him.
Anyway this afternoon, I was with ds and I asked h to take a pic of us. He took it but it was crap, so I said something like 'aw you didn't even try to get a nice one'
Background is, all my family and friends are in diff country and I like to send them pics & vids of ds. I have hardly any of me with ds, I've asked h to take some and he's taken one maybe 6 times since we've moved here (3 years)
I know it sounds really trivial but my parents love getting them and it's important to me.
Explained this to h.
He got really angry, said I' don't do it cos you're always fucking whinging about it' I prob do cos he doesn't bother taking a good one and it annoys me I can't send it on to my parents then. I can hear I'm being petty as I write this
I admit I got pissed off cod he just turned from me and back to his iPad as I was speaking. I was trying to tell him it's important to me so I wish he took a little extra care.
He then followed me into the kitchen, came up in my space and started mimicking my voice 'oh photos'
He said 'you're a very fucking irritating person, you're hard to live with and you're always whinging, i know you're having a tough week but you need to get over it now'
Stormed off and threw a book on the table as he walked past. Down in the room now on his iPad.
I have been feeling sorry for myself, my pain with endo has knocked me out, doc's visit and missing having friends & family to talk to. I haven't leaned on him really except to tell him what was happening but he hates when I'm over emotional so I've tried to hide it.
Do you think I deserved to be called an irritating person? I know sometimes I do whinge but not that much (I think) - I don't know anymore.
Every time we argue about something he makes it so personal and tells me something new that's wrong with me.
Need some perspective
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buaitisi · 11/05/2013 12:07
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