Where to start?
Usual story - discovered DH was having so-called emotional affair last year. Of course the 'cheater's script' was followed to a certain extent - he said it was someone he met in a bar whilst away with work - they chatted, she gave him her phone number and he talked to her and texted regularly. The conversations turned sexual and she was sending explicit pics to his secret email address.
Long story short we stayed together with him breaking down crying often, doesn't know how he could have done it, was living in a bubble, was a stupid fantasy life and he does all he can to make it up to me. On the surface I seem okay - but I'm not really. I have full access to his laptop and phone and bank accounts.
In my head I've checked out of the relationship and it suits me right now to stay - but I do have a plan to leave.
Anyway I know that for any relationship to continue/work there has to be complete honesty about what happened and he swears that he has been BUT...
Shortly after I discovered the affair - texts on phone and I knew the code to access- I also went onto his ITunes account and came across Hidden Purchases of Flirtomatic, Whatsapp and Match.com.
I accessed the Flirtomatic account which had been cancelled a few weeks after meeting the woman he was having the fling with. Turned out that to get the password you entered the email address and it would be sent to the email on file - Lo and behold it got sent to his email and I accessed the account that way. All his details were there - date of birth though the address was one that he had just before he met me - a few years ago.
With a bit of checking I think that if an app is deleted from an iphone it automatically goes into the Hidden Purchases section.
He is adamant that he knows nothing about any dating apps and never accessed them. What can't convince me one way or another is around that time our Home Hub was hacked into and both our emails were showing as being read although we hadn't opened them and some were deleted without our knowledge. He said he assumed I was reading them as he thought I was checking up on him. And he didn't know my password anyway. Further - films were bought on his ITunes account that he knew nothing about and when he checked back in the deleted emails there was one from iTunes warning that the film had been sent to another device - he is lax about checking his bank smt so didn't notice until I went through the Itunes purchases. So there is a chance that someone else was using his details - just before he met me he did have a stalker that had to be warned off by the police.
So -by the way - didn't meant for this to be so long!!.
Anyway reading recent posts and checking on Safari - Advanced Data it shows tracking cookies such as mookie1, rawgarden but what struck me was one from uk.match.com.
I can't see any pages looked at via Safari because the airplane mode is on when he's at home - he gives it to our toddler to play with and worries that emails might be sent in error. I don't want to turn Airplane mode back on as I don't want him to know I'm looking.
So finally how likely is it that a tracking cookie is there from match.com and it not be suspicious?
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Another Iphone snooping question!!
FetchTheServants · 09/05/2013 20:29
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