Met oh 22 years ago. I have 24 year old son from previous marriage. We also have son together.
Oh always been jealous of my relationship with eldest son. But I have always over compensated for him not having his dad around. Oh treats sons differently.
4 years ago we moved abroad to start new venture. Eldest son didn't want to go because of work and girlfriend. Etc. we rented our house out and bought another 3 bed smaller property where we rented out 2 rooms and eldest son lived rent free.
6 months later we move back. We move back to our house and son is still at other property.
Other property pays for itself but oh thinks that we should be making more money from it. So has asked son for rent. He has started to pay a small amount of money. But oh is still not happy. He thinks that he should be paying same as regular tenant. I don't agree. Problem 1
Problem 2
Oh controls everything. I don't have access to money. We do have cash in the house which he says I can use in an emergency. He counts it every day to see if any is missing. I have never taken any. I ave cc for food and household stuff which he goes through and pays off. I have told him that this isn't fair because he always has money and his own business cc.
Problem 3
Our relationship is a roller coaster all resting on what mood oh is in. If he is in good mood great. If not he is moody and sulks swears calls me names. Tells me to fuck off. Calls me lazy bitch. Punches walls, throws things. More verbally abusive if he has had a drink. I think he is having mid life crisis ATM. The last big fight was sat night. He has been ok since then.
Problem 4
I now suffer with anxiety and am taking medication. I have had therapy and cbt but still feel quite low.
Any advice ?
I keep telling myself to get a grip!!
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