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Apparently I nag alot. Do you think so?

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NaggingGirlfriend · 09/05/2013 14:08

I'm a SAHM with a 9 month old. DP works 8 hour days, 5 days a week. I do the cooking, cleaning and majority of the parenting.

All I expect is that he do what he agreed to do which is to do the washing up after I cook and clean up after himself if he makes a mess.

He doesn't do either of these things. If he does wash up he will only do it a few minutes before I need to cook the next day and only does what I need to use right at that moment. This means I'm stuck at home with a pile of dirty dishes all over the kitchen all day long.

He leaves his clothes everywhere. I find dirty pants all over the kitchen floor (I have no idea why he's taking his clothes off in the kitchen) and everyday he will spill coffee, tea and sugar all over the counters and not wipe it up.

I am not a clean freak but I am really struggling to do everything when I've got a baby that's waking up about 6 times every night (Only I will get up for her in the night) Its really starting to get me down, I've told him this and he says he will do the things he promised but he never does. When I bring it up again a few days later after I've noticed he's still not done these things he tells me to stop nagging him all the time.

Anyone have a way of dealing with a problem like this? Or do you think I do nag too much (I don't see another way of letting him know it bothers me)

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/05/2013 14:10

No, you aren't nagging but telling him to do things he is too lazy to do.

Which he should do.

He needs more nagging and a large boot up his arse.

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Jengnr · 09/05/2013 14:12

Nagging is just a sexist word that means fuck all. If he doesn't want to be told tell him to do it andnstop acting like a slapped arse.

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Jengnr · 09/05/2013 14:12

Him, not you being a slapped arse that is....

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Machli · 09/05/2013 14:21

Nagging is a word some people use to shut up the person who is making perfectly reasonable requests of them that they simply don't want to do. It is used by selfish entitled people who think that the other person should be doing all the Shit Work that they don't want to do. He's a lazy twat who thinks part of your wifely duties is being a servant and performing all domestic and Childcare duties.

No you are not a nag.

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SundaysGirl · 09/05/2013 14:33

What machli said.

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MrsMangelFanciedPaulRobinson · 09/05/2013 14:36

I have this ongoing problem with my DH, I've given up on it now and I just leave his shit wherever he's put it.

Machli has summed up the definition of 'nagging' perfectly!

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ScumbagCollegeDropout · 09/05/2013 14:37

Yup what machli said.

STBXH was the same.

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StitchAteMySleep · 09/05/2013 14:43

No you are not nagging.

Put all dirty clothes in a bag and leave them, do not wash them. He will soon realise when he has no clean underwear.

Leave all dirty dishes in the sink, go out to lunch, get yourself a takeaway to eat before he gets in. When he gets in tell him you are not cooking dinner as the dishes are still dirty, if he wants dinner cooked he can do it himself.

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NaggingGirlfriend · 09/05/2013 14:49

Thanks for the reassurance that I'm not a nag.

I refuse to do these things for him. The problem is he just doesn't care and will quite happily leave things to pile up and be disgusting, which cant happen with a crawling, inquisitive baby about. He says he's tired and has to do so much more than other people have to do (go to work and walk the dog)

Maybe I will stop cooking him dinner and washing his clothes until he does his share.

I'm just full of resentment and tiredness right now.