He treated me like crap lol. He always has done, but tonight, i blocked his email and any other way he has of contacting me, and it's done.
I'll get flamed for this but he wasn't single when he was seeing me. He's had 2 gf's in the space of time we've been fwb's. He just split with the last one and so isn't seeing me either anymore, cos he is free to shag about, so i'm surpless to requirements.
who is this guy? funny, was just thinking...my boy's dad (6yo) has never really been interested in him but still sees me (flame mail here too) and I'm wondering whether to give him the boot! Hard, isn't it?
I'm not going to flame you. I'm going to suggest you have a think about why you were prepared to put up with crap from this man for so long, and how to not do it again. Have you had previous abusive relationships? Abusive person in the family (not necessarily a rapist but a bully or a manipulator or someone who insisted that women exist for men's benefit and that a woman without a Man In Her Life is a failure...)?
I'm not actually sure if i was in an abusive relationship before tbh. It was a bit I suppose yeh. I was 18 when i met my ex and he was 38. I stayed with him cos i didn't know how not to tbh.
The fwb was someone i met at work just beore i split with xp. Nothing happened then, but we used to chat a lot. I think I was just shocked that he'd be interested and i fell head over heels for him. I told myself that i didn't care if i couldn't be with him, and i think in the end i did care, but had accepted it. Truth is though he cared less about me than sit on his shoe. He messaged me tonight to tell me his cock hurt cos he is single now, so shagging about.
IMHO, better to have options. So, have gone on a dating site tonight, not 'cause I have time/energy etc for a relationship, I just know i feel more powerful, in control , better when having nice chats to new blokes with no obligations. Good luck, Nut xc
TNOC: Well it's fairly likely that a man who chose you when you were a teenager and he was nearly 40 would have been abusive. Generally men who choose much younger women are inadequate and unpleasant and want a relationship in which they are The Boss; when the woman grows up and starts thinking for herself, men like these either dump her for another young - or at least vulnerable - woman or start beating or at least verbally abusing her. I think you may well have been taught to believe that men are superior to women and that the man is in charge of the relationship. It would be a good idea to promise yourself a year without engaging in any dating/sex/relationship-hunting, so you can work out who you are and what you want. If you are mid-30s and want to have a child I appreciate that it's going to feel much more worrying to do so, but it's better to have a child as a single mum than tie yourself to an arsehole for 20 years.