Anyone know anything about passive-aggressive behaviour?
My DH is a really, really 'nice' man. Everyone says so. A bit quiet and perhaps a tad on the passive side, but I have always regarded him as a 'better' person than me ifswim.
Despite 17 years together I still feel that I don't really know him, he often seems to be on another planet. I am the one who wants to make plans, get things done, organise stuff but somehow we rarely seem to get anywhere. He is good at forgetting small things - he works away Mon to Fri and every weekend I feel as if I have to start all over again telling him what's going on in my life.
He never instigates anything, especially things he knows I would like to do. He has never once organised, booked or planned a holiday or a special treat/outing. I feel as if I have to fight for everything and resort to anger to get him to 'hear' me.
He thinks it is Ok to do things he knows I won't like and not tell me - to avoid a row, he says. Then I find out and get angry anyway.
He had a couple of affairs in his first marriage, because first wife went off sex and 'told' him to find someone else. He has often told me that if I don't want sex he will find someone who does. Self justification I suppose. Not sure if he ever has. Hasn't mentioned it for some time.
Anyway, upshot is I feel disorientated, angry and frustrated most of the time and am beginning to hate myself.
Thanks for listening.
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Passive-aggressive or am I going mad?
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rufussmum · 07/05/2013 18:39
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