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Possible cheating partner - how to check an iphone?

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Heartbrokenmum73 Tue 07-May-13 12:46:47

Hi, I wrote recently about my partner of 19 years (anniversary today actually) telling me he doesn't love me anymore.

This was the outcome of an argument about me thinking he's cheating. I have suspected this for a few months now and around three weeks ago I asked outright to look through his iphone.

Now, he got the iphone in January. I don't know my way around one and wasn't sure what I was looking for. What I DO know is that he's very attached to it (it lives in his pocket), it beeps and rumbles constantly in the evenings/at weekends, it has a pass-code (which I'm fairly certain I know from careful observation).

When he gave me the phone (extremely reluctantly) to look at, I didn't really know what to look for. There was nothing incriminating in the texts (but he would probably delete them as he went along), but is there a messenger service on there? I have a Blackberry so I have BBM on mine. Is there something similar on the iphone that I should be looking for? How do I get onto the internet and check the history of it? How do I check for over-used phone numbers, etc? I can only check it when he's asleep at night so I need to be quick with it.

I'm asking this off the back of the zombie thread that's popped up, that I read with interest - it all made me sit up very straight indeed!

I know people are going to tell me that I should just end it and that I don't need the evidence, etc, but please bear in mind that everyone is different and I DO need the evidence. I need it for my own peace of mind and to make sure that I don't tear us apart completely when there are three children to take into account too.

Any iphone users out there who can help?

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TrippyMcTrapFace Mon 28-Nov-16 12:26:32

xpost Paris - not aimed at you! grin

TrippyMcTrapFace Mon 28-Nov-16 12:25:42

It's a zombie thread! The OP posted once then never came back. That was 3 and a half years ago.

ParisGellar Mon 28-Nov-16 12:25:38

Gahhhh I hate zombie threads.

StefCWS Mon 28-Nov-16 12:21:52

1 thing I think may be interesting to know is, if he has deleted stuff but has forgotton to clear the phone search. Then you can double click the main button and scroll through the last 20 or so things he has been doing.

Also I could suggest find a friend with an iphone, say your thinking of getting one and ask for a tutorial x

TrippyMcTrapFace Mon 28-Nov-16 12:11:37

Also reported. This thread is a perfect example, given all the spam deletions, of why HQ should just lock threads after a set amount of time. Look at the amount of work they've had to put in deleting all the shit!

GinevraPotter Mon 28-Nov-16 12:02:18

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tartanmattress Thu 20-Oct-16 10:42:31

Hi, I. Was lurking yesterday and hoping things would work out ok...
How are you doing today?
cakeflowers for you.

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GinevraPotter Wed 19-Oct-16 19:28:45

Zombie thread folks. I've reported the spam posts.

myfriendnigel Wed 19-Oct-16 19:21:04

Has he got snapchat? Messages sent then disappear. Cheaters love it.
Isn't that a bit odd that he's sinc his phone to his friends laptop and not his own? That in itself would raise my suspicions.

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