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Possible cheating partner - how to check an iphone?

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Heartbrokenmum73 Tue 07-May-13 12:46:47

Hi, I wrote recently about my partner of 19 years (anniversary today actually) telling me he doesn't love me anymore.

This was the outcome of an argument about me thinking he's cheating. I have suspected this for a few months now and around three weeks ago I asked outright to look through his iphone.

Now, he got the iphone in January. I don't know my way around one and wasn't sure what I was looking for. What I DO know is that he's very attached to it (it lives in his pocket), it beeps and rumbles constantly in the evenings/at weekends, it has a pass-code (which I'm fairly certain I know from careful observation).

When he gave me the phone (extremely reluctantly) to look at, I didn't really know what to look for. There was nothing incriminating in the texts (but he would probably delete them as he went along), but is there a messenger service on there? I have a Blackberry so I have BBM on mine. Is there something similar on the iphone that I should be looking for? How do I get onto the internet and check the history of it? How do I check for over-used phone numbers, etc? I can only check it when he's asleep at night so I need to be quick with it.

I'm asking this off the back of the zombie thread that's popped up, that I read with interest - it all made me sit up very straight indeed!

I know people are going to tell me that I should just end it and that I don't need the evidence, etc, but please bear in mind that everyone is different and I DO need the evidence. I need it for my own peace of mind and to make sure that I don't tear us apart completely when there are three children to take into account too.

Any iphone users out there who can help?

DeterminedToChange Mon 05-Jun-17 16:27:50

Zombie Thread!

Queenofthedrivensnow Mon 05-Jun-17 16:17:43

You don't need to add him on what's app you will just be able to see him in your contact list. I would be interested in what his profile pic is

FakePlantsOnly Mon 05-Jun-17 14:43:11

I know you've said about not knowing the passcode for certain, but if you do manage to get in, doing this will show you where he's been, unless he's disabled it, but seeing as you've said he's not particularly tech savvy I highly doubt that he's done so:

1. Go in to the settings, shows as a little cog on a grey background
2. Scroll down to Privacy and click on it
3. Select Location Services
4. Scroll all the way to the bottom and select System Services
5. Scroll down and select Frequent Locations, this will show you where he's been, when he was there and how long he was there for

As much as I hope he isn't having an affair, if he's been somewhere with her this should show you flowers

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TrippyMcTrapFace Mon 28-Nov-16 12:26:32

xpost Paris - not aimed at you! grin

TrippyMcTrapFace Mon 28-Nov-16 12:25:42

It's a zombie thread! The OP posted once then never came back. That was 3 and a half years ago.

ParisGellar Mon 28-Nov-16 12:25:38

Gahhhh I hate zombie threads.

StefCWS Mon 28-Nov-16 12:21:52

1 thing I think may be interesting to know is, if he has deleted stuff but has forgotton to clear the phone search. Then you can double click the main button and scroll through the last 20 or so things he has been doing.

Also I could suggest find a friend with an iphone, say your thinking of getting one and ask for a tutorial x

TrippyMcTrapFace Mon 28-Nov-16 12:11:37

Also reported. This thread is a perfect example, given all the spam deletions, of why HQ should just lock threads after a set amount of time. Look at the amount of work they've had to put in deleting all the shit!

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