This is my first post in relationships, serial lurker but never thought I?d ever need to post myself.
My DP and I have been together for nearly 3 years, a very happy relationship, saving for a house and talking about getting married and having DC in the future (I have a DD from a previous relationship) I absolutely love him with my heart and soul and genuinely felt the feeling was mutual. Now I?m having doubts.
I?ll try and keep this brief but I?m so confused at the moment and really don?t know where to turn.
The intimacy level between us has slowly declined in the past year or so, he has told me in the past that his stressful job leads him to not always have the energy so I?ve tried not putting pressure on him as well as a range of other things (losing weight, making sure I look after myself etc) to try and gently encourage him.
After another recent dry spell (2 months) it?s lead to me feeling very insecure and doubting my own attractiveness, I just don?t know where I?m going wrong. I?ve also got an inkling he might be into porn, but he?s lied to me about this fact if so.
On Saturday he went out and left his work phone at home, I suddenly felt compelled to look at it ? I don?t know why, I?ve never felt the need to check his phone before.
I found a text message from a month ago, most of the conversation is deleted but a message from another man saying ?Thanks but I?m really happy and settled so not gonna happen x? that was at 9 o clock (not sure if am or pm) then at 1.48 (am I assume) he?s replied saying ?sure? X? and then another 10 mins later saying ?awake? X? and that?s the end of the conversation.
I?ve had a million and questions going through my head, the main one being can this be innocent? I so want it to be.
Please can you help me work out if I?m just going crazy and reading too much into this? If it?s innocent then it just seems odd, why text back at that time of night (it was a night out where he didn?t get in until past 2am) what else could it mean?
And if it?s not then I suppose I could ignore it as clearly nothing has happened but then I?m thinking, is this the first time? And what if this man had said yes?
I?m literally going from one minute convincing myself I?m crazy to the next convincing myself there is no way this can be innocent.
Please help me figure this out, I love this man with all my heart, sorry this has been so long.
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Please tell me this could be innocent?
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LookForwardNotBack · 07/05/2013 09:41
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