Long time lurker, never posted here before but am in need of a bit of a moan - and some reassurance that I'm not being a mad woman!
My OH of 6 months is in the process of getting divorced and has two young children. I have yet to meet the children and do not want to rush into it. We are also waiting for the childrens' mother to come round to my existence a bit more - she threatened to withhold any access to the children when she found out he was seeing me. We are coping with that, and I am happy to wait until it is right to be introduced to the boys. However she has recently - read in the last 6 weeks - started seeing a new man, whom she has already introduced to the children as her boyfriend.
Now I understand that what she decides to do with her children is up to her, and that really I suppose it is none of my business, but it is a bit of a kick in the teeth. However, that isn't what has really bothered me.
OH has the children every other weekend and two nights in the week. This weekend was supposed to be her weekend with the children - she organised to go out with new man last night and thus OH had the children for the night. No problem we thought, he gets to spend some extra time with his children. Made it clear to her that it was being done as a favour, and that she would need to pick them up this morning as we had plans. Then this morning she texts and says she is ill - read hungover - and he might need to keep the children for another night. Since then no contact, no replies to texts and ignoring phone calls. OH is fuming, I am annoyed as we had plans for the weekend. Children are confused as they thought they would be back with Mummy by now. Am I being a selfish mad woman for thinking she is doing it to mess OH around, and that there is a very good chance she is just spending a sunny afternoon with her man?
Sorry if this is long, incoherent and pointless, just annoyed and frustrated.
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Am I a mad woman?
nimbusdawn123 · 04/05/2013 15:55
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