I have just found out that my DH (married for 18 - together for 25 years) has been having an affair. He has admitted it and confessed to have been meeting a woman for sex dates for the last 18months. I am finding it hard to get my head round this and I can't quite believe its happening to me.
Our marriage has had its ups and downs - which I thought was fairly normal when you have been with someone for so long. There have been 3 times where DH has said to me he wasn't happy and wanted to leave but each time we have decided to work on our relationship for the sake of our DCs. The last time we had one of these crisis was two years ago and I was so shocked as I had thought we were through it all and that we were getting on really well.
My DH says he has stopped the affair wants to fix things with me and we have started having more counselling. Right now I can't image how I can ever trust him again when he has been lying and deceiving me for 18 months to go and have sex with another women.
I do still love him he is a wonderful, good looking, funny and charming man but an absolutely rubbish husband. I worry about how this will affect the kids if we separate, but also feel after so many years of limping along/trying to make it work and failing that now it must be time to call time. But equally after investing so much of my life in this relationship I feel I should at least get to the bottom of why this happened, what went wrong, what did I do/not do - but am thinking am I being a mug here??
Would love to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation for any advice or thoughts....
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Just discovered an affair
tinkerb · 04/05/2013 10:57
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