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Am I being paranoid?!?!

(9 Posts)
Mollnlillahsmummy Sat 04-May-13 09:54:44

Ok so sorry 4 long post need some advice lady's (and a hint of sympathy!) I am 33 weeks pregnant, last night the husband went on night out with his m8s, when he came home (@3am!) I was awake, so I snuggled up2 him in the mood 4 a bit of "sexy time", he couldn't have been less interested, I asked "what's the matter" and he responded "nothing" and went sleep, normally he's very loving so this was out of charicter. Then about 30mins later he started grabbing my "bits" like a maniac, which led 2 sexy time, only thing is it wasn't genral husband wife sex, it was all grabbing n bit rough it was eather 2 drunk 2 realise it was his pregnant wife or he was thinking I was someone else, then after he rolled over n passed out not a word! Am I over thinking this (hormones!) or would other lady's be a bit worried about what he had bin up2 on his night out? Help me please!!!

melbie Sat 04-May-13 10:33:14

I would imagine he was just really really drunk don't worry. Maybe mention this morning that it threw you a bit and see what he says.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 04-May-13 10:59:09

Don't worry? hmm Speaking as a 'lady's' (sic) he sounds appalling. Being aggressive and 'grabbing your bits' is not acceptable behaviour on any level - it's sexual assault. As for rolling in at 3am and being so pissed he passes out after 'sexy time' - that's not the action of a responsible or loving man, it's the action of a brute.

He has some serious problems and so do you if you're even questioning whether this is normal or not.

LadyVoldemort Sat 04-May-13 11:01:13

I wouldn't be happy at being grabbed at, no way. Have you asked him about it this morning?

melbie Sat 04-May-13 11:09:37

I just meant don't worry that it means he was up to anything! Not that rough sex when you don't want it is ok. Sorry- I worded that wrong

Mollnlillahsmummy Sat 04-May-13 11:47:51

No havnt spoke 2 him this morning got kids up n went out with mum left him in bed. Don't get me wrong he wasn't abusive, just not exactly making love, it was just so out of charicter which makes me question if he is so loving 2 me all the time, why was he so different this time he was drunk?! I can't help thinking he thought I was someone else :0/ n no being grabbed at wasn't right belive me when he decides 2 get up n grovel at the least he will be getting a right earful!

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 04-May-13 12:03:14

Why was he so different when he was drunk? hmm Ever heard the term in vino veritas? With the alcohol having removed all his inhibitions the danger is that what you saw last night was the 'real him'.... a nasty, aggressive piece of work. Be very careful.

Mollnlillahsmummy Sat 04-May-13 12:28:51

Please don't get me wrong he wasn't violent it was just so out of charicter he's normally a bit "metro sexual" lol known him 4 12 years been 2gether 6 didn't scare me just peed off n bit shocked! Even questioned if he was sleep sexing! He's bin ringing told him I will b home l8r when I'm ready, he hasn't got a clue by sound of it!

Leavenheath Sat 04-May-13 12:37:33

I'd think that his night out involved porn or a sex club.

Do you get nights out and do you sleep till after midday while he gets up with the children?

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