I am really struggling on how to deal with her. She has been in this relationship for 7 years. On the surface all appears well, but she confides in me a lot about what is going on.
Her dp's mum cheated on his dad, and his first partner (who they had a child) cheated on him, so because of this he thinks ALL women cheat and constantly checks up on her, if we go to the pub for lunch he will phone up every 10 mins to ask questions like any men in the pub? and then that night it all kicks off her being accused of meaning and sleeping with men. !! she adores him and has never cheated on anyone is her life and does not intend to start now. Its all in his head.
She is a sahm and all money goes into his account, and she has to keep asking for money for shopping etc, he will go off on one saying I have you £20 2 days ago how has it gone already etc etc.
They have 1 child together aged 6 and another aged 10 from his previous relationship. The kids are being affected by this and upset.
They seem to go into a pattern of this behaviour he will realise what a pratt he has been and apologies and they become so loved up for a week or 2 then the whole cycle starts again.
It all kicked off a few days ago and she asked me what should she do, I said its not for me say but everyone has different levels. If it was me I know what I would do, infact 8 years ago dh was going through a hard time severe depression and it upset the kids to a point where I said he needs to get help or else I will have option but to leave, dh went to see the doctors and was better.
Its really draining, and I don't know what to do for the best.
Any advice would be appreciated
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How do I best support my friend through her 'troubled' relationship
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concernedmate · 03/05/2013 10:21
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