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Sex with cousin

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Bitofadviceplease · 02/05/2013 22:11

How wrong is it?

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Offred · 02/05/2013 22:12

How wrong do you think it is?

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Lweji · 02/05/2013 22:13

I know two couples who are cousins.

How wrong or right does it feel to you?

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BabylonReturns · 02/05/2013 22:14

It's not illegal! Does that help?

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Bitofadviceplease · 02/05/2013 22:14

Should say not my 1st cousin, it's my cousins son, 3 yrs between us. Cousin's once removed...

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HamletsSister · 02/05/2013 22:15

Not that unusual, or illegal. I know someone who has done it (actually 6 people - 3 couples made up of cousins in my family). All teen / early 20s and nothing lasting. None of the older generation found out and we all treated it as a huge joke.

However, many many regrets for everyone years later.

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HollyBerryBush · 02/05/2013 22:15

Not illegal. Common in a lot of cultures

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SciFiFan · 02/05/2013 22:17

I know 1st cousins who are married. Only danger is if there is a genetic fault which can be doubled when having kids.

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scaevola · 02/05/2013 22:18

It's neither illegal, nor barred by the church.

The potential for causing family disharmony is probably quite high, though, if the relationship breaks down.

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Bunbaker · 02/05/2013 22:18

It isn't illegal, but it isn't particularly a good idea. The aristocracy were known as being blue blooded because there was so much inbreeding between cousins. Also, there was a this TV programme about the rise of genetic abnormalities in certain sections of the population, again because cousins were marrying each other.

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Bowlersarm · 02/05/2013 22:19

It's legal! Therefore no problem

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bollockstoit · 02/05/2013 22:19

I know a couple (not together any more) who were first cousins. People took the piss a bit tbh. They had decided not to have children together just in case.

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HollyBerryBush · 02/05/2013 22:19

One little branch of my family has married first cousins for 3 generations - this lot have decided not to have children as they think they are pushing their luck somewhat.

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WeAreEternal · 02/05/2013 22:20

I definitely wouldn't, and I would be really upset if a family member did, but we are a close family and it just seems really incestuous to me. Cousins are too closely linked genetically for me to think a sexual relationship is acceptable.

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Offred · 02/05/2013 22:21

Seriously, why bothered about what others think? If you are not concerned ignore other people if you are then it probably won't work out... Simples...

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bollockstoit · 02/05/2013 22:24

Perhaps if my 2 male cousins weren't scarily unattractive I might feel differently about it

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scaevola · 02/05/2013 22:26

If there are inherited conditions in the family, then it would be prudent for cousins to have genetic counselling before having DC. Or if there had been previous consanguineous marriages in earlier generations.

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crypes · 02/05/2013 22:28

Queen Victoria and Prince Albert were first cousins , apparently that's how haemophilia came into the Royal family.

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Lweji · 02/05/2013 22:28

WeAreEthernal has a point.
From what I know children raised together don't feel each other sexually attractive.
So, close cousins are not very likely to get together, particularly if they have been in close contact from and in early infancy. .

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Laquila · 02/05/2013 22:29

It certainly wouldn't go down well in my family (in fact I can't even conceive of it) but I do know a married couple who're cousins, who have kids, and no apparent abnormalities. I wouldn't frown on it for moral reasons.

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GeorgianMumto5 · 02/05/2013 22:43

All I would say is that I rather wish my great-grandparents hadn't been first cousins. By all accounts, it was a very happy marriage, but the dodgy gene they magnified is a sod to live with.

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SignoraStronza · 02/05/2013 23:04

In my younger days I might have had a hedonistic, sex, and drugs fuelled weekend with my mothers cousin's son. Was interesting arriving at a genteel family pub lunch afterwards - I genuinely don't know whether anyone to this day knew what we were up to but it felt very, very naughty. We didn't/don't really see much of each other though and certainly not a close knit family.

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spottyparrot · 02/05/2013 23:12

Think it's possibly a bit hard for other family members to deal with if they know.

It isn't illegal. But as mentioned up thread, sometimes not the best idea genetically for a baby.

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Bitofadviceplease · 02/05/2013 23:24

Know him since birth, only been close last few years, he's hot, fit, attractive...

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myfirstkitchen · 02/05/2013 23:29

Minging.

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