My exH is an alcoholic and has underlying MH problems. He has been assessed and will be entering a 6 week (minimum) rehab programme at the end of the month, once he has completed detox.
We have 2 children, aged 6 and 4 who live with me. At present, the only contact is by telephone on a sporadic basis. He now lives with his parents and they have been good at maintaining contact with the children and I encourage this.
When he enters rehab he will not be allowed any contact with the outside world, I understand.
Should I explain this to the DC or wait for them to ask if they can call him? they rarely do but it does happen. They are also due to visit the grandparents at Whitsun but of course they will notice that their father is not there.
There is also the tricky issue of finance. At present he has managed to provide financially for the children and I am unsure about whether I should ask how this will be paid in his absence. I don't want to add to his problems but I do need the money; I can provide financially for the DCs bit it will be very tight without his contribution. We do have a legal agreement in process but it is not yet finalised.
Any advice on how to approach this with the DCs is welcome, as would be advice regarding money. My relationship with his parents is usually OK and I would like to keep it that way for the sake of the children.
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ExH going into rehab, advice re children
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Llareggub · 01/05/2013 08:40
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