I?ve just realised that a group of three friends I had from my twenties, and very dear to me, are just a hypocritical, lying and gossiping lot.
I told them in the past quite private stuff about my life, and they used it to gossip among themselves, ask me prying questions to obtain more information about my life and spread unfounded rumours about me among people who know me.
One of them lied quite blatantly to me when she went with all her family to my other friend?s wedding in Sweden, and claimed she paid for all the airplane fares and related costs, when the reality was that the bride paid everything for everyone herself. I think the bride wanted the world to see what good friends she?s got that are willing to spend all that money on her wedding. I know for sure my other friend hasn?t got the means to pay for all that herself.
None of them came to my wedding abroad even though I wouldn?t have expected it as I know they are not rich.
I?ve distanced myself enough, but I?m still in touch. Should I just drop all of them at once? Shall I keep them as Xmas card friends?
The truth is, I?m very upset and angry at what they?ve done, and hearing from them or contacting them doesn?t bring me any joy at all. Quite the opposite.
I fear that I will be cut off from a very important part of my life if we?re not friends any more. Maybe it?s also the fear of being forgotten for ever, and being as a result more lonely. I feel really sad about this whole situation.
I honestly don?t know what to do.
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nerofiend · 30/04/2013 13:50
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