We have been together for 22 years. With 2 grown up sons. My husband is moody and unhappy and negative. My glass is always half full. I try and get him to see the best in everything. He is very materialistic. We have a lovely home, cars, money in the bank. I don't go out to work. I have a job from home that doesn't bring in a regular income. When the kids were small I took cleaning, ironing jobs. My husband controls everything. We don't have joint bank accounts. He asks me to put everything on credit card groceries petrol etc and he pays it off. I don't have access to cash. I calls me lazy bitch, stupid, etc. I started having panic attacks and anxiety 2 years ago. I have had therapy (they think its to do with him) and now on medication. I have had a few scary times with anxiety. My family are worried. They don't like how my husband treats me. He is very jealous. I don't go out socialising without him really. He does go out with his friends and goes on holiday every year with them. He loves me and is physically attracted to me. But I don't feel loved. He doesn't understand the anxiety. He wants his old wife back the way I used to be. I don't feel loved. We are not friends. We fancy each other but it's not enough. I have told him that his negative attitude is driving me mad. He is hard worker but would rather go to the pub than come home. Our youngest son has no respect for him. I'm scared to leave. Any advice ??
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