Insulting online dating emails.

[fluffitmore]

Not the ones that are sexual, or the ones that are just rude, but the ones that are sexist, entitled and insulting. Over the last 24 hours I have had:

• what meal do you cook when you are wooing a man.
  

Fucks sake, theres a assumption im going to cook like a 1950's housewife to get you to like me, NO.

• what are you planning to do this weekend, shopping?
  

No you dick, please dont sterotype and besides im not 20, spending all day giggling over shoes is not my idea of fun.

• Im not sure of my plans yet but if i am free ill email you and you can meet me.
  

Right, ill just sit in on the off chance that happens then shall i?

The more i date the more morons i end up encountering.
Please share your awful messages to make me feel better.

[StuffezLaYoni]

I had one recently who openly advertised the fact he was married (but don't judge him!)
I was remarkably restrained but he kept ON and ON. I just kept thinking about some poor woman having no clue this was going on. He wasn't sexual or rude in any way - just seemed genuinely puzzled as to why I wasn't willing to "take the plunge and begin an amazing adventure" with him.

He was Jim from Market Harborough, by the way.

[fluffitmore]

Oh i had one like that, i explained that i wasnt wanting to meet him and he tried to convince me by telling me his wife wouldnt know and he would say he was away with work, like that was going to make me change my mind.

[ohtobecleo]

I'm curious, what site are you using OP?

[fluffitmore]

A mixture of match, plenty of fish and okcupid. The first two messages came from match, from men in their late 30's

Ive been dating awhile and i know its par of the course, but it does make me wonder quite what these men think of women and what sort of woman they are looking for. I dont expect the reality will ever match what they want which is probably why so many people find online dating to be unsucessful.

[ohtobecleo]

That explains it. I've been OD on and off for years and I've found Match the worst (haven't even bothered with PoF). The best (and the one I keep returning to) for all-round generally decent men is Guardian Soulmates. I've never experienced any of what you describe on there.

[fluffitmore]

But if you are not in a city or close to one its next to useless. Match isnt even all that great in my area, very few men on it.

[Concentrateonthegood]

I don't do online dating any longer but when I was, I got contacted by a bloke that told me he was bi sexual. He told me he couldn't find a bloke he liked the look of so contacted me instead :-0

[TerracottaPie]

I remember a friend telling me about a reply she once received on a dating site that left me a bit .

It was along the lines of the bloke deciding from her picture that she looked a size 16 and then kindly informing her he only went for women that were size 10.

[Fairylea]

Don't give up on pof. I met my dh on there! There's just loads more people, so the probability is that there are also loads more twats. Just use the block button frequently and keep blocking everyone who sounds remotely odd.!

[akaWisey]

I had one which seemed to start ok, if a bit presumptuous - "Lovely dress the your pic, gorgeous garden, can I bring Strawberries and Champagne to share with you?"
when I said we could share them on the beach as I sold the house with the lovely garden he said -

"Oh, I've got a room you can have for nothing in return for skivvying for me. "

[ItsYoniYappy]

I'm not going into mine but here a 3 fairly sane but annoying ones:

One guy told me he was married (after chatting for a week) he didn't want to cheat but many girl 'friends' who he liked to take out, he didn't love his wife but loved his DDs -blocked

One recently sent a message saying: If i were a PC I could crash at your place..

Another one: Why are you single? Then when I say I have been for almost 3 years. Are you afraid of commitment? (no I just haven't met anyone I like) then he called me a bitch for not getting onto Skype until 9pm the following night, I had told him 8pm, he had waited an hour an was over about it

Oh and another one, can we just skip the date and go get married.

Oh and a female contacted me once. I didn't know it was for lesbians too.

[fluffitmore]

I had one where he said he didnt like my name and asked if he could call me something else.

[GoingUpInTheWorld]

Op thats a corker that one!!!

Calling you something else hahaha

[LittlePeaPod]

When I was online dating I once had a message from a guy asking if I was up for a threesome with his wife! declined it... I also went on a number of dates with some real weirdos and had a cople that text me pictures of their bits (had my number as considered a second date but not after the picture)... Nightmare! But I look back on it now and see the funny side of it.

On a positive note I met OH on a dating site four years ago, we are engaged due to marry this year and ttc (1mc ). I am now so glad I didn't just give up and not bother... Good luck and I will keep my eye on this thread to hear others thoughts/stories.

[Yika]

Somebody just contacted me to tell me mine was the stupidest profile he had ever seen!
Obviously not with the intention of wooing me, but really - why bother going to the trouble of contacting a total stranger for the sole purpose of insulting them?

[makemineamalibuandpineapple]

One guy had on his profile that he would go for dinner "but don't expect him to foot the entire bill". Now i have no problem with splitting and always offer but it was such an odd thing to put as an opener

[mrfrancis82]

I'm on OKCupid and I don't leave sexist messages to people. What's your id?

[ALittleStranger]

I've never had a sexist or insulting message.

But then I've never had a cock shot either so I'm starting to think I forgot to set my profile live.

[SolidGoldBrass]

I don't think the 'what are you doing, shopping?' email was particularly insulting, just someone trying to make conversation. The rest are pretty rubbish though.

[Hissy]

I had one this morning..

WOW, I thought Dolls like you were only in my dreams, how did you escape? Do you remember we are due to get married tomorrow and I've already bought you a wedding gift; a ball and chain so you don't wander too far from the kitchen.

I can't remember the rest of the email, and have naturally deleted it.

WTAF do these idiots think they are doing?

[Mosman]

I've had some lovely guys contact me from okcupid I feel a bit greedy keeping them all to myself.
Match has been a whole different story though

[ItsYoniYappy]

YoniYappy

Online dating isn't for lesbians?

[sigh] I think you know the answer but will be nice.

I did not realise the site I was on was for lesbians. Many apologies for not typing everything exactly so that no-one could nit pick at it.

[DionFortune]

I was on POF and had just started chatting to DH (to be) when I got the message;

"I've not read your profile, do ya fancy slammin?"

[LittlePeaPod]

I've not read your profile, do ya fancy slammin.


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