I had one recently who openly advertised the fact he was married (but don't judge him!) I was remarkably restrained but he kept ON and ON. I just kept thinking about some poor woman having no clue this was going on. He wasn't sexual or rude in any way - just seemed genuinely puzzled as to why I wasn't willing to "take the plunge and begin an amazing adventure" with him.
Oh i had one like that, i explained that i wasnt wanting to meet him and he tried to convince me by telling me his wife wouldnt know and he would say he was away with work, like that was going to make me change my mind.
A mixture of match, plenty of fish and okcupid. The first two messages came from match, from men in their late 30's
Ive been dating awhile and i know its par of the course, but it does make me wonder quite what these men think of women and what sort of woman they are looking for. I dont expect the reality will ever match what they want which is probably why so many people find online dating to be unsucessful.
That explains it. I've been OD on and off for years and I've found Match the worst (haven't even bothered with PoF). The best (and the one I keep returning to) for all-round generally decent men is Guardian Soulmates. I've never experienced any of what you describe on there.
Don't give up on pof. I met my dh on there! There's just loads more people, so the probability is that there are also loads more twats. Just use the block button frequently and keep blocking everyone who sounds remotely odd.!
I had one which seemed to start ok, if a bit presumptuous - "Lovely dress the your pic, gorgeous garden, can I bring Strawberries and Champagne to share with you?" when I said we could share them on the beach as I sold the house with the lovely garden he said -
"Oh, I've got a room you can have for nothing in return for skivvying for me. "
I'm not going into mine but here a 3 fairly sane but annoying ones:
One guy told me he was married (after chatting for a week) he didn't want to cheat but many girl 'friends' who he liked to take out, he didn't love his wife but loved his DDs -blocked
One recently sent a message saying: If i were a PC I could crash at your place..
Another one: Why are you single? Then when I say I have been for almost 3 years. Are you afraid of commitment? (no I just haven't met anyone I like) then he called me a bitch for not getting onto Skype until 9pm the following night, I had told him 8pm, he had waited an hour an was over about it
Oh and another one, can we just skip the date and go get married.
Oh and a female contacted me once. I didn't know it was for lesbians too.
When I was online dating I once had a message from a guy asking if I was up for a threesome with his wife! declined it... I also went on a number of dates with some real weirdos and had a cople that text me pictures of their bits (had my number as considered a second date but not after the picture)... Nightmare! But I look back on it now and see the funny side of it.
On a positive note I met OH on a dating site four years ago, we are engaged due to marry this year and ttc (1mc ). I am now so glad I didn't just give up and not bother... Good luck and I will keep my eye on this thread to hear others thoughts/stories.
Somebody just contacted me to tell me mine was the stupidest profile he had ever seen! Obviously not with the intention of wooing me, but really - why bother going to the trouble of contacting a total stranger for the sole purpose of insulting them?
One guy had on his profile that he would go for dinner "but don't expect him to foot the entire bill". Now i have no problem with splitting and always offer but it was such an odd thing to put as an opener
WOW, I thought Dolls like you were only in my dreams, how did you escape? Do you remember we are due to get married tomorrow and I've already bought you a wedding gift; a ball and chain so you don't wander too far from the kitchen.
I can't remember the rest of the email, and have naturally deleted it.