I have been with my DP for just over a year, we don't live together or have any children together. I found out about a month ago, he had slept with his ex twice during our relationship and had been texting her the whole length of our relationship. He had various excuses, eg she was blackmailing him, threatening to ruin his career (they work in the same line of work), he felt sorry for her as she has a disabled son, and he feels he doesnt deserve to be happy as he left his wife and son for her and feels guilty about this and feels he should be punished.
He begged and begged me to take him back and said e realised how much he loves me and can't live without me and he'd make everything right. I halfheartedly gave him another chance. Last week I heard from his ex and she said he'd been turning up at her work trying to see her and emailed her sayng he'd missed her.
He is adamant she won't leave him alone and she turns up in his office with her skirt hitched up and sends him dirty texts about her used underwear. He said she's crazy and he can't get rid of her.
He has now broken down saying he's glad it has all come out and he can get himself some help. He has booked a counseller and is desperate to prove to me that he is the nice guy i thought he was and that we can be a proper family. He has taken this really hard, and is crying and can't eat or sleep etc.
What would you do, run for the hills or give him one ast chance? I really did love him like i've never loved anyone before all this came out but like i said to him, i loved the person i thought he was!
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Do I forgive or move on?
outdoorlover · 26/04/2013 07:54
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