Hate filled , and really fricking lonely .

[Littleblue]

Pathetic isn't it ... worked so hard to keep men at a safe distance , I failed to notice how lonely I am .... as soon as men flirt with me I want to kill them , heard it all before .... the internet is riddled with fappers and im so bloody tired ....

[Sunnywithshowers]

No advice, but and un-mumsnetty hugs xxx

[garlicyoni]

I'm going to bed now, but I hope you'll feel able to tell a bit more and get some feedback. Will check tomorrow. from me too.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Being filled with hate is a lonely business. Move well away from the internet and keep yourself busy with work, play, friends, hobbies, exploration, whatever grabs you. You'll still meet flirts IRL but they're rarely as single-mindedly skanky as the one's on' t' Tinterweb....

[Littleblue]

Self pity is never attractive , but I'm sick of having to be strong for everybody else , and wondering why I always get it wrong tbh , nice men drive me mental , sleazy men incense me .... the only Mr Right in my world lives 6 hours away.... thanks girls xx

[Littleblue]

" single mindedly skanky " is accurate ... lol , so bored of it , even the intelligent ones lapse into grooming eventually ...

[ClippedPhoenix]

Im back on line dating and haven't had any of this??????? I don't talk to anyone dodgy at all really. If it starts I just press the delete button.

[Littleblue]

I don't deliberately talk to anyone dodgy , lol ... maybe I need to reassess my standards

[ClippedPhoenix]

Nothing wrong with my "standards" littleblue, they're very high indeed, maybe you need to reassess your pictures and profile.

[Littleblue]

That was a bit harsh ! , I wasn't referring to your standards , I was referring to mine !

[Littleblue]

As for my pictures and profile , I am careful not to invite seedy attention , my pictures and profile are decent , mature and carefully pitched so as not to invite pondlife .

[ClippedPhoenix]

Apologies for harshness littleblue. I obviously read it wrong
There are twats absolutely everywhere not just on line. It helps to have profile piccys with absolutely no cleavage showing whatsoever and if the inuendos start just tell them to "keep it clean" and it's mostly adhered to. If not delete. Men are not so different to us and they get a lot of smut too. (im a woman by the way and im going on what ive been told).

[Littleblue]

Apology accepted I'd never show cleavage , that's what riles me , there is nothing whatsoever comehither about anything I write , or pics I share , I do have a rather strong sense of humour , perhaps its that ... but I'm not smutty about it , pillow talk belongs on the pillow , I don't understand why I attract the fappers ... I have said a few times I'm not interested in that kinda convo with a stranger , and once sent a chap a link to an adult singles site ... lol

[ClippedPhoenix]

If you're over 40 I've found a site where its extremely busy traffic wise (grin) and all the men I've come across, which is plenty (not meaning that in a big charlie potato me way) have been decent guys. Not sure if im allowed to say it on line. Will pm you if you wish. Let me know.

[Littleblue]

I am , yes , near 45 in fact ... yes please do , curious

[ClippedPhoenix]

I also have a rather wicked sense of humour but have learned not to do the double innuendo thing now.

[qualitytoffee]

clipped, can you send me a pm as well please? xxxx

[ClippedPhoenix]

Just sent you one quality.

[qualitytoffee]

Thank you x

[Loulybelle]

Little, im also in the lonely boat, 4 years single, 30th approaching, and i feel so shit about it, but i dont have the confidence to date, because i have such a shit opinion of myself, and people reinforce how i feel. I've been stuck for 4 years.

[ClippedPhoenix]

Youre welcome and good luck. It's ok for others to say stop doing it, enjoy being on your own blah blah, but most of us want (whether secretly or not) a partner and there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever.

[Olderkidsaremine]

Joining the queue to be pmed please!!!

I'm having the same problems Little blue but met a guy and had a couple dates, thought things were going well, became his friend on Facebook etc we had talked about recent exes and reasons for splits, he then went quiet.

It now transpires that the most recent ex has decided that she wants him back - she was out of his life until I became his friend on Facebook and it seems to be that she doesn't necessarily want him but no one else can have him either. Poor man he doesn't seem the type to fall for it but obviously has, as he has gone back to her and boy is she marking her territory loads of comments all over Facebook for me to see!

And apparently she is a 'lovely and special person' his words - just reinforces the self pitying aspect that I'm obviously not 'lovely and special'!!

[Hissy]

Oy, clipped.... if your PMing.....

I may be back on the market again soon...

[ClippedPhoenix]

PM'd you all, i hope/think....

[ClippedPhoenix]

Oh and don't be put off by the powder puff colours! it's also very easy to navigate and the search thingy really works!!! you can actually stipulate things and you don't get messaged, especially the radius regarding millage, I live in London so why the hell do I want to speak to someone in Scotland, it aint gonna happen!

[ClippedPhoenix]

Olderkids, if it's any consolation mine doesn't want me back! Just think yourself lucky that it was a 2 date scenario, I was a friggin 3 year rebound (ouch).