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DP depressed but won't deal with it

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GymBagHighHeels Wed 24-Apr-13 22:55:27

Periods of depression before, past suicide attempt and plans made in past (over a year ago)

Last 5 weeks become low, withdrawn, no energy, lost weight, no interest in usual things, no sex drive (even for self pleasure!) Just a shell of himself.

Refusing to go to Dr as "it's fine, I will fix it." Swings between saying it will go away and now he is suggesting maybe this is the real him and the happiness is just a phase occasionally!

sad I want to shake him out of it, it;s like a spell he is under and I can't break it and shout at him to get help, but I wouldn't do that just feel like it! Have suffered depression in the past I know I can't fix it all for him.

cestlavielife Wed 24-Apr-13 23:02:27

No you can't. He needs professional help. Walk him to gp tomorrow.

Ouchmyhead Thu 25-Apr-13 00:09:43

I had this same problem, but I was in you DP's position, thinking i could fix it myself - i nearly sent my DP mad! In the end he made an appointment for me, and took me (very reluctantly) to the GP, he came in the room with me and when I made things out to be better than they were, he would tell the GP the truth. I hated him that day, I shouted at him a lot! Then I got a prescription for anti depressants, and counselling. He'd make sure I took my tablet every night, until i started to feel better. I'm s on them now (6 months later) but I am 100% improved. Although I hated him at the time, I now realised I needed him to put his foot down and do everything he did for me. Maybe that's what you need to do, ignore what he's saying, take him to see your GP and go in with him. Take the shouting and his anger, he doesn't mean it, when the tablets start to kick in he will understand why it was necessary I'm sure. Good luck.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 25-Apr-13 06:25:37

Suggest you contact your GP and get them to make a house call and mental health assessment. If he is genuinely depressed they can organise treatment. If something else is going on you'll know.

GymBagHighHeels Thu 25-Apr-13 20:38:52

We don't have the same GP - don't live together yet.

I suggested he do the online Goldberg test. He did it and got 55. sad

0 - 9Depression unlikely21 - 35Minor to moderate depression
10 - 17Possibly minor depression36 - 53Moderate to severe depression
18 - 21On the verge of depression54+Severe depression

GymBagHighHeels Thu 25-Apr-13 20:39:29

Oh sorry that wasn't clear - 54+Severe depression

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 26-Apr-13 07:46:58

Then call his GP and ask them to make a house-call. I've done it myself for a family member who lives 200 miles away. We're not next of kin or anything like that. I was very worried about her behaviour and they sent someone round impressively quickly.

Don't diagnose over the internet.

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