and I am grief-stricken about this.
whenever I had thoughts about his behaviour towards me, I put them to one side as bitterness over the financial problems he left me with and the fact he was no longer interested in our son.
yesterday, during a counselling session, we talked about my former husband and the counsellor noticed that I was tempering every negative with a positive. she said he was a cruel man who abused me emotionally, sexually and physically and that I was not to blame.
I feel like I am to blame though. I also feel very stupid not having having seen this for myself and for getting so upset about it now I have realised. I hardly slept last night and spent most of today either sleeping, crying or trying to distract myself from thinking about it.
what do I do now? how do I move on from this or should I dwell for a while and let myself feel the pain instead of hiding from it?
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Divorced ten years and jut now realising xh has an abuser
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HellesBelles396 · 23/04/2013 16:57
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