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If ur DH or DP works away during the week can u answer me a question please?

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chubbymomie2012 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:38:53

Im just wondering how often u contact each other either by text or by phone. For example does he txt good morning? do ye have txt conflabs in the evening. Does he call u? im just trying to guage if I am being unreasonable in wanting at least a few txts in the evening. Thanks ladies x

Iwouldratherbemuckingout Mon 22-Apr-13 21:41:57

I text him in the morning and we have a bit of a morning text chat he rings me every night. If either of us can't talk in the evening for whatever reason, we say in advance. We don't tend to text/chat in the day due to work.


Cherriesarered Mon 22-Apr-13 21:42:26

Usually a text in the day or two and a conversation in the evening 5-20 mins depending on day's news!

7to25 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:45:40

My husband works away a lot, but not with a regular pattern. We are in contact once a day (usually) either by phone or, now that I have an iPad, by FaceTime which is great. I know that he is away to work so we both give each other space. No constant texting. If he doesn't contact me I presume work got in the way and likewise if I am not home to take a call.

Rooble Mon 22-Apr-13 21:45:48

Ditto Cherry - a text to say good morning, a phone call in the evening. I don't expect lots of texts all evening (might be our age?!) - quite often he goes out for dinner with colleagues/clients and its not appropriate to be texting.

ThePieSmuggler Mon 22-Apr-13 21:46:40

Usually a quick chat most evenings, I'd text more (its just an occasional one not every day) but he doesn't really 'do' texts, he says its nicer to phone and talk. To be fair he has a point.

SoleSource Mon 22-Apr-13 21:47:00

I don't have a Husband. No man wants me sad

memphis83 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:47:31

A text good morning. A call at tea to say hello to ds and then a 10 min call at bedtime.

alarkaspree Mon 22-Apr-13 21:48:06

When dh worked away he used to call for a chat in the evenings. I think it was more for his benefit than mine.

However it doesn't really matter what other mumsnetters do. Your own feelings are what's important, not whether a bunch of internet strangers get more or less texts than you.

bubbles1231 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:48:37

once a day call, in the evening.

nilbyname Mon 22-Apr-13 21:50:57

Quick chat in the morning, and then another at lunch if possible and then one with the kids at supper, so face time, then one later after they have gone to bed, to say goodnight. No texts, lots of chats. That is unless he is out with clients, so just a chat early eve and then we catch up in the morning.

Hassled Mon 22-Apr-13 21:51:30

Odd text in the day if we have something specific to say, but otherwise just a call in the evening.

OP - are you not getting any communication from him?

Whykickamoocow Mon 22-Apr-13 21:53:11

A text in the morning, radio silence during the day and a call in the evening often early and rushed. It's taken a while to fall into a pattern and I used to expect more, but eventually gave up when I realized that was all I was going to get. Sometimes I'm treated to a quick phone call during the day, which is nice but I've found it's better to not expect too much, then I won't be disappointed.

gettingeasiernow Mon 22-Apr-13 21:53:27

Wake up call in the morning, two calls whilst at work (very short), longer call at bed time. Maybe an e-mail if something occurs to either of us.

Ragwort Mon 22-Apr-13 21:53:42

We have been married for 25 years, DH has always worked away and mobile phones didn't exist when we first got together grin. We usually phone or text every couple of days, but not always, depends where he is, some countries have really poor connections.

I don't 'expect' texts every day. I assume he is busy working and I am getting on with things enjoying the peace and quiet and having the bed to myself grin.

NotMostPeople Mon 22-Apr-13 21:53:47

DH left yesterday for the week abroad (big time difference) he sent a text when he landed, which I responded to when I got up. Another during the day and a phone call just before he went to sleep. Usually a text in the morning or during the day and a phone call at night. Or Skype.

YoniOrNotYoni Mon 22-Apr-13 21:54:08

Odd texts. Phone call most evenings.
Except when he's in Boston during a lock down, then many many calls

EleanorFarjeon Mon 22-Apr-13 21:56:58

We do both.

Phone calls in morning and long chat last thing at night and usually a couple of quick calls in the day, and several (silly) texts.

Almostfifty Mon 22-Apr-13 21:58:16

We used to text good morning every morning, and have a phone call every night as he went to bed, to say goodnight. We'd both send random texts if we had time during the day, but I never got upset if he didn't have time to reply, as he was usually in meetings.

chubbymomie2012 Mon 22-Apr-13 21:58:56

Hassled, he does communicate. He replys to my good morning text and we usually have a txt chat at night but rarely phone calls. I just wondered what the norm was thats all. :-) im not upset or suspicious or anything. just wondered.

elfycat Mon 22-Apr-13 22:01:31

DH works away 3 weeks at a time. He'll call most evenings when he has a signal but as he works on a ship he can be out of range. The calls can be short if he can only get a signal outside and it's cold. There is a satellite phone on the bridge for emergencies, but we haven't had one yet.

It's been 4 days since I heard from him, I don't know when the next call will be, and he will be home a week on Wednesday if I don't hear from him before.

nulgirl Mon 22-Apr-13 22:02:11

Well it's not my husband but me who works away quite often during the week. I try to phone briefly at breakfast time (but quite often forget as my meetings sometimes start at 7.30) and then I'll always phone to speak to the kids/dh about 7pm. Its often quite brief if something more interesting is happening. They all stay at my parents when Im away as dh has to leave for work really early and so needs help with the dc's in the morning. Occasionally I'll speak to my dh later in the evening.

Are you concerned about how often he phones? I know at times I just get caught up in everything - either working late or drinking with colleagues blush.

rubyrubyruby Mon 22-Apr-13 22:02:12

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rubyrubyruby Mon 22-Apr-13 22:03:46

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TolliverGroat Mon 22-Apr-13 22:05:50

At the moment DH is gone for somewhere between 3 and 5 days every week. He'll generally call in the evening once or twice in a 3-day week up to two or three times in a 5-day week. I'll get one or more emails most days (generally boring practical stuff but sometimes something funny he's thought of or an Internet link he thinks I'll like) and he comments on some of my FB statuses/photos.

In the past he's been away for periods of a couple of months at a time and then we'd probably have Skype sessions instead of the phone calls, but at around the same rate.

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