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Am so upset and annoyed with DP today over dc2's sleep. More upset than I should be iyswim.
Basically he (ds- nearly 6mo) is a bit of a rubbish night sleeper. Me and DP manage this ok between us, with me doing lion's share as a) I breastfeed b) DP works ft and has a long cycle ride so to/from work.
Ds has however always been an excellent day napper- but only in his pram. He'll nod off in the porch or garden with no rocking and sleep for 2 hours+
Yet DP in his wisdom, having read nothing about baby's sleep (as I have) and having never looked after a baby full time or looked after both kids alone (not because he doesn't want to, just because of circs, bf and so forth), decides that ds should be napping in cot, not pram.
I agree to a point as it's a bind to need to take the pram when we go away, and also I guess there's an argument that if he naps in cot he may sleep there better at night.
I didn't want to over-rule dp on this, as i don't want to exclude him from stuff involving care for the kids.
But today has been a flippin nightmare. We have spent most of it with one of us in ds's room trying to get him to sleep. He's had 2x 20 min naps plus a LOT of crying. Usually he'd have had 3 hrs sleep by now and be his happy chirpy little self.
And dp has cheek to say I have no PMA! That I shouldn't get stressed by it. He also said a few weeks ago that he 'holds me responsible' for ds only napping in pram (as I've always relied on it I guess). He says he knows this is unreasonable but he was just being honest instead of stewing on it.
I know it sounds like a petty disagreement over a baby napping. But it has really touched.a nerve with me. Maybe because I do the vast maj of childcare (being on mat leave) and yet my choices on this issue are apparently not valid... Maybe because I can't believe he would expect me to spend a day like today when I've got ds and dd (3) on my own.
And maybe because ds now whimpers as soon as you put him in cot so I fear nights will be further ruined! I could cope with nights as the days were so easy.
Someone talk me down from this hysterical ledge! Does DP have a valid point, or is my righteous indignation justified?!
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okthen · 21/04/2013 13:58
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