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I need a kick up the arse.

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Iwanttohideaway · 20/04/2013 20:17

Sorry if this is a bit of a ramble..

I've been seeing a man for 4 months now. He told me from the start he never wanted a relationship, prefers to be alone and is too selfish to worry about anyone else. All fine I thought. I'd not long come out of a long term relationship so no strings sex was just what I needed.

So what do I go and do? Bloody fall for him don't I.
I've told him how I feel but he is still adamant that he doesn't want to be with anyone.

I try to push these feelings aside because I want to carry on with what we have but the physical pain of wanting to be with him is getting too much.
I think about him from the time I wake up until I go to sleep at night.

We talk almost every day and we work together so I have to see him most days too.

I know this is not good for me, the longer I let this go on the more I'm going to get hurt.
I just cannot bring myself to end it or let him go. It's like he's a drug, I'm addicted.

To be fair he has never lead me on or hinted that there would ever be anything more. He's always been completely honest with me and says he wants me to find someone that can make me happy.

I sound desperate saying this but I feel like I will take anything I can get just to spend time with him.

I suppose my question is, how do I let him go and get over him? It's so painful.

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baskingseals · 20/04/2013 20:24

could it be that if you got him you'd see that he was an ordinary mortal just like everyone else?

it is a horrible feeling, but nobody is responsible for your happiness except yourself. don't focus on him, focus on you.

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Iwanttohideaway · 20/04/2013 20:30

I absolutely think that you are right. I think I've built up so much what it could be like if we were together. The reality would probably be very different.

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BlastAndDalmatians · 20/04/2013 20:36

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Iwanttohideaway · 20/04/2013 20:50

Thanks Blast .
I'm at the point where no other man is attractive to me cause all my thoughts are consumed with him.
I've had offers from other men but I haven't been able to bring myself to pursue anything else as yet.

I need to find me a life!