I have a friend who attached herslef to me when we were both single and we used to go out together. e love life is complex, she is seperated , can't decide if she wants her dh back and is sleeping around with younger men. Full on Drama.
She cam be a bit controlling. I went out with her a few months back, she wanted me to go to the local club whereas I wanted to stay in the pub. She put pressure on me until I went clubbing.
The real trouble starte dwhen I met my newly ex bf. Suddenly I didn't want to go clubbing anymore. I was getting bad pmt so didn't want to go clubbing. Instead I arranged a curry night whilst my ex went out with his mates. I invited a group of friends round for a curry including her. At first she said yes to the curry, then changed her story and siad could we go out after the curry, then she asked if I would cancel my curry night with friends in order to go clubbing with her! Of course I told her no. During curry night I was getting very upset and distressed about my ex bf for some reason. I was clearly not fit to go out; I was an emotional mess. I had siad I would go out with this friend even though I didn't want to. She came around and my best mate told her I wasn't fit to go out. She applied pressure on me until I went out. I did have a good time but it was clear that she just wanted a mate to go out with rather than caring for my welfare.
The final straw happened when I was talking aboutbf last weekI said that everything in the relationship was going great. She then sais 'are you sure it's passionate enough?' . In other words Is there enough Drama.
My break up was not her fault and I take full responsibilty but I do think that she planted a seed of doubt in my mind when I have always had great sex with my ex. That night I got cross with my ex when he refused to put out. I wonder if I allowed that comment to rankle?
Anyway she knows we have split and stil wants me to phone her so we can talk about her problems. No. What can I do?
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Should I bin this friend? If so, how? long sorry.
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superstarheartbreaker · 20/04/2013 19:17
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