I already know I'm going to sound pathetic so no need to tell me so....
DH and I have been married almost 3 years and have been together 7. We have (the most amazing) 22m DS who both love more than anything....the problem is I think that is the only thing we have in common these days!
DH is self employed and works bloody hard but sadly he thinks because of this he shouldn't be expected to do anything else, including making any kind of effort in our relationship! We struggle for money even though I work 3days (my money swallowed by bloody childcare!) and there is never any money left over for us to just go for dinner/cinema, nice quality time!! Interestingly though there is ALWAYS enough money for him to go out at the drop of a hat and stay out til 3, 4, sometimes 6 in the morn!! Can't remember the last time we enjoyed each others company without DS being there to make us smile! I rolled over in bed this morn to give him a cuddle and his exact words were "why do you always have to annoy me in the mornings!!!!"! Genuinely can't remember the last time he touched me affectionately or told me he loved me! I do everything in the house and work hard but he is the one who "needs chill out time with the boys" as he is main provider!
Feeling very unloved and don't know how long I can stay in a relationship that makes me feel this way! Have old him how I'm feeling but it is constantly dismissed! He said he'd come back early tonight but woke me as he stumbled through the front door at 3.30am and he went to sleep on couch without even coming to bed!
As I said, maybe just feeling sorry for myself but as a 29 year old with a long time ahead I just don't want to be stuck with someone who clearly doesn't love or respect me! :(
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Justgotosleep11 · 20/04/2013 04:23
Hmmm ... I could have written that 9 years ago. Infact, I could write it now, just with more, older children as I am still here!
When I look at his parents they are the same. I grew up in a more outwardly loving, tactile family so I have found it haaarrrrdd to 'get used to'. However, I know we are everything to him and he would never do anything to hurt me (or the kids obviously!), so for me I always think 'the grass is always greener' ... what is his parents relationship like?
No doubt someone will be along soon to tell you that it's some form of abuse and that you should leave the bastard ... 
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