I haven't really looked on this board before, so apologises in advance if this isn't the right place to post about this.
To start with me and my Mother have a very complicated relationship, where I have been the parent since I was 14. She was Emotionaly Abusive due to her MH issues. I can't forgive her and we don't have a great relationship, but we talk and I try to encourage DD to have a relationship with her.
My MIL and I are a different story, we get on brilliant. I love her to bits. I have known her for 6ish years and truly see her as my Mother. In those 6 years she has done so much for me and my DP, I can never thank her enough for it. Me and my SIL get on fine, shes lovely and lives nearby so we see each other quite a bit.
I suppose the problem is mainly petty Jealousy. When I fell pregnant last year, MIL was brilliant and offered so much support, it made us even closer. Which was great since my Mother emotionaly really struggled with the whole thing. But when I was 7 weeks SIL announced she too was pregnant. I was really happy for her at first. But then I admit i started to resent her. My big way to bond with my MIL was suddenly not just about me anymore.
I tried to ignore it, but at times SIL has made some comments that have really hurt like how 'you're now part of the family' after I had DD. Even though as far as I was aware I'd been considered a member of the family for years. I'm so insecure that every nice thing MIL does for my SIL I get so so envious. Right now they're round hers talking about the imminent arrival of my DN and I'm sitting here getting myself all upset even though they're round here later.
Gah sorry, looking back at this it's just ranting. I'm not sure what I'm looking for here.I think I need some of mumsnets wisdom and common sense to give me a kick up th arse and stop my pity parade.
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CuppaSarah · 17/04/2013 17:42
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