Hi there, I am, and always have been, very close to an Aunt of mine. I'm 30: she is almost 60. She was never able to have children and my Mum, to her great credit, allowed her sister to develop a very close bond with me. So far, so great. My children even refer to my Aunt by a special name, and she has a special role in their lives.
However, over the past few years, my Aunt seems to have really aged, mentally, IYSWIM. It's as if she finds difficulty in enjoying life. When I was at uni, we used to see eachother once a week and have shopping days in town; we used to have a laugh. But now, she doesn't like going out anywhere, is always in a rush to return home if we do. She gets bogged-down with details of other's business and, well ... I'm just finding it difficult to cope with. This constant dower. (We see her a couple of times a week, on her days off. I'm a SAHM at the moment so it's difficult to 'get out of' this routine. I've thought a break might be good, but don't
know how to instigate it, as she knows my routines).
I'm well aware that the fact she couldn't have a baby is painful for her, to this day. I know that she loves me and my children, but I don't always feel she appreciates
our company. My Mum has approached her about depression, but my Aunt won't do anything about it.
She's very sensitive by nature, so I have to be extremely careful how I approach her about this - even though she can be harshly blunt with me.
The most recent example is that I wanted to take the kids on a day trip to a farm, but my Aunt's response was that it's smelly and would make my elsest dc sick
Any advice, please, because I'm screaming inside.
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MolotovCocktail · 17/04/2013 10:23
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