I'm basically in a situation where I have to chose between my family and the man I think may be my one true love, and I honestly can't sacrifice my family and friends for him. It's such a horrible situation and makes we wonder what other people would do.
What would you or wouldn't you give up for someone you loved?
My bad it was just that last line from Pandimoniaa. I hope there will be no sacrificing of babes/children and the concept of sacrificing a child (in any sense of the word) for love just seamed a little of an oxymoron!
For all of you who think I am being melodramatic or exaggerating things, I am not. My family/friends MAY eventually accept me being back with him, but logistically they would not want to be around him so would not visit etc and friendships would die out this way.
Yes, they do hate him that much, and yes, they would be so angry our relationship would be permanently affected.
Every couple fights. Every couple has arguments. These are not the kinds of things that would turn someone's entire family and friends against them. You say they 'hate' him! That's an extreme response.
So what exactly has he said or done to you that they know about? I honestly think there is more going on here than either you realise OP or are willing to admit.
Personally I dont think our relationship was as bad as my family do. But I was young, we broke up regularly and dramatically and I would move back home really upset and my mum would spend months trying to make me feel better etc, and then I would see him and get back with him and it would all start again.
We both saw other people between dating, when we were apart. I broke up with him when I found out I was pregnant, and he is guilty of treating me pretty badly during my pregnancy, and I think its that more than anything that my mother hates him for. I was vulnerable and alone, and he did not support me and sent many abusive texts etc.
After you've just said all that, could you remind us again exactly why you think he is a Good 'Un ?
And for the record, BabyDaddy was doing no harm. You had bogged off and we were entertaining ourselves.
Truthfully, if you were my family member I would be pissed off at you because you sound like you were at least as bad as he was thus compounding the conviction that this is probably a Very Bad Idea but I wouldn't cut you out of my life.
I expect you would me though, if I dared to give you an honest opinion.
This is just another cycle in an ongoing disaster saga, isn't it? Nothing's changed except the date.
Fine, go ahead and "sacrifice" your entire support network for your melodrama. I suspect they're all threatening to ditch you in a last, desperate attempt to shake you out of it. But they'll still be there for you when it cocks up again, saying "we tried to warn you". Things will turn out this way, you know ... why not cut straight to the heartbreak, lean on your friends and write the closing chapter of Doomed Love by HeartShapedSaw?
I just wanted to say that I am in a similar (ish) situation.
There is a possibility that I could get back with the man I consider to be "the one" for me. He broke my heart last year and treated me quite badly (more outof cowardice than malice I think) afterwards. The problem is that I have never stopped loving him. Now there's a chance we could get back together, I know I would do it in a heartbeat, even though my head tells me that it might be a disaster
I know that my friends and family would really struggle to welcome him back. My mum in particular. (My DC has no idea what went on or how traumatic it was - he is not his dad) so that wouldn't be an issue
BTW I'm not a silly flibbertygibbet. I'm a reasonably sensible professional woman in her 30s. And right here right now I'd say I'd do almost anything for love.
I'm not sure how helpful that is OP but I just wanted to say that there is someone here who understands a little of how you feel