I have been with my OH for over 25 years now and we have always been best friends, having the usual ups and downs. Our kids have flown the nest now so its just the two of us at home, and we rarely fall out. I have always had a suspicious nature, can generally tell when someone is telling fibs, and over the years sometimes I have been proven right with these feelings, be it at work or with family etc.
Last week these feelings came to the fore, as one evening I had an idea that my OH had either been speaking to an "old friend" or to someone else, whilst I was at work, It was unusual that I hadn't heard off him at all that day. When I asked what he had been doing for the couple of hours that evening, I was told he was tidying up the shed, and sorting the shelves, but for some reason I got the impression it was fibs. When I checked this out the next day, I couldn't see any signs of anyone having been in the shed and it certainly didn't look like it had been tidied.
When I questioned this, an almighty row broke out, with me calling him a liar, then I was told that I was spying on him and had no trust so he stormed off for the day! He still stuck to the story that he had done some cleaning and that the reason I didn't see the changes was because he had put the rubbish in the far corner for now, underneath everything! I know for a fact that no one had been in there because I was the last person to go in and fetch something, only the day before.
He eventually came back, we talked and he still tried to say he had been in the shed and asked me what did I think he was doing? I just replied that I didn't really know, but deep down I think it could be one of two things, either it was chatting to an "old friend", which nearly caused our break up a few years back, or it could be talking on a webcam or something I reckon. I must explain that there wasn't an actual affair with this old work friend, I think it was stopped before that could have developed, but I went through absolute hell for a couple of months. I have lied really now to keep the peace, but have my eyes open for clues all the time, and its doing my head in! Please let me know your views. :-(
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Going along with a lie to keep the peace, for now!
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sweetpud · 16/04/2013 13:27
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