I've posted about my mum here a few times so sorry if you're bored by now! I certainly am.
We've had a lot of issues with her behaviour to us since we had DD and got married, shes very controlling and def has narcistic tendencies. She just wants me to do everything she asks of me. In the past i have done things just to please her but now I have my own family unit she can't accept we need time alone.
I work with her, (am def working on getting out of this) and she has been having DD while i work. This is prob the main reason she is trying to contact my DH. DD has just received her nursery funding so now has to go 3 days, she was doing 2 that we paid for. So yesterday was the first monday my mum didnt have DD. Today, while im uncontactable as have my phone off, she calls and texts my DH to arrange to meet up with him to discuss our issues. He hasn't answered as she left a voicemail (phone didnt ring) and a text, but hes at work and doesnt want to respond while he is there.
She hates DH, thinks he controls me, has always looked down on him etc. Why is she trying to meet him. He does not want to see her and if they do meet up she really wouldnt like what she has to say. She can't accept that her attitudes are whats causing the problems, my DB and DSIL have very similar problems but have never told her her behaviour is causing it as know she cant see it.
I just don't know what to do anymore, shes full of drama! I'm exhausted and we can't take her behaviour anymore. I've tried being honest with her and she just cant see what i'm saying or down plays my feelings.
She wont be happy until we're seeing her every week for dinner, every other weekend for a day trip, calling her up every night etc. I work with her 3 or 4 days a week and just can't face seeing her any other time as its too much. I am getting out of this as soon as i can!!
She lays on the emotional blackmail, etc you're causing us so much pain your dad and i might seperate, or i don't have a reason to keep going etc. She has also said so much shit to my family, I don't know if they believe her or not but i've gone past caring now. She also tries to say DD needs to see us all socialising together, which i'd agree with if it was amicable but i think it would confuse her more. Mums behaviour has got very odd over the last few years and very selfish.
DH has been amazing he has tried to help me to sort things but he has alos helped me to see i can't please everyone and help me stand up to her which is prob what makes her annoyed as i always used to just do what she said.
I don't know if i'm asking anything, just rambling, but i'm so fed up with things i cant keep going through this crap!
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Toxic mum now trying to contacting my DH to 'sort things out'
Lulu1984 · 16/04/2013 12:28
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