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I know its not Friday...But

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BabyBorn Mon 15-Apr-13 22:32:53

Hi Ladies!

I was talking to a good friend about men and their habits and she's of the belief that if you have a good sex life then your partner/ husband doesn't feel the need to masturbate! I believe masturbation has nothing to do with whether you have a good sex life or not! Men just do these things, don't they??

What do you ladies think?

LoserNoMore Mon 15-Apr-13 22:37:08

I think it's a perfectly healthy thing regardless of how good your sex life is.

Grrrbloodyuni Tue 16-Apr-13 01:07:06

Women do too!

It's sometimes comforting and relaxing.

I think people can get upset imagining what their partner is thinking about while they masturbate, and that's what causes these theories about not 'needing' to do it.

MamaBlue4 Tue 16-Apr-13 04:12:13

I always give my DH something to masturbate to, I also like to watch him.

Both men and women masturbate. It's natural and it's nothing to be shameful about even in relationships.

Lueji Tue 16-Apr-13 06:47:40

We don't know what they have in their minds when they are with us either.

TheYoniKeeper Tue 16-Apr-13 07:10:05

Me & DP have a very good sex life but I still do it regardless. It's not a reflection of a bad sex life IMO. I personally find it very stress relieving & it good in a different way to sex. Never thought anything of it actually, or of him doing the same but I can sort of see why women who maybe don't feel the need when in a relationship might want their partner to feel the same. Different strokes for different folks! scuse the pun smile

TheYoniKeeper Tue 16-Apr-13 07:10:39

*it's crappy phone hmm

candodad Wed 17-Apr-13 13:21:00

But if you do don't you get hairs in the palm of your hands?
On a more serious note does an attitude that it means your sex life is lacking indicate an issue with your own self confidence though?

Sariah Wed 17-Apr-13 13:28:19

Myself and dh made a decision a number of years ago (about 8) to not masturbate. We have a fairly regular sex life, 1-2 per week and have teens, young children, full time jobs etc.... so I think we are both happy with this.

Both of us regularly masturbated before this and would have been open to using porn etc...

since we stopped masturbating our sex life has improved hugely. We also stopped using porn and started to rely 100% on each other for our sexual needs.

Its maybe lucky that we both have the same sex drive, mine might be slightly higher than his but not so much that it causes a problem.

We have a good sex life. I always orgasm and feel fulfilled afterwards.

I don't miss it or feel the need to masturbate. Dh is so tuned into me know and what I like that for me sex is about us together and nothing else. Obviously I can't speak for him and obviously I can only go by what I know of him and I know some people will automatically think he is lying etc... but it works for us.

DuchessFanny Thu 25-Apr-13 10:23:32

We have a great sex life, but both also masturbate .. sometimes i'm feeling extra stimulated that day, sometimes to help me relax, or sleep ... totally normal for a couple to do both i think

ladyjadie Thu 25-Apr-13 12:45:33

Is there a point where he might be masturbating 'too much' though? I've been insecure in a past relationship because my ex used to do it so much before he met me, he would do it when he felt sick or pissed off or bored... I remember wondering if he had had an 'issue' with it... he said his ex girlfirends (more than one) took real exception to it (he always used porn when he did) and I could never work out if he did it more than 'the norm' (though I get there isn't really a 'norm').

It never bothered me though, I always joined in if he fancied it. He did used to text me when he was at work sometimes saying he'd sneaked off for a wank in the loos if he'd been thinking about us after particularly exciting times the night before... (tmi sorry!)

MirandaWest Thu 25-Apr-13 12:49:29

I masturbate more than my DP does - I see it as something separate from sex with him. It feels nice and is a good prelude to sleep (we don't live together so I often sleep alone). I can't imagine not masturbating tbh but each to their own

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