How much effort would you put in to repair a casual friendship

[dashoflime]

I have a tendency to get very over sensitive, worry too much and over think things.

I also get really acutely embarrassed and anxious if I think I've done something wrong or if someone is annoyed with me.

As a result, friendships can be a little bit tricky. Good friends are easy to get on with. But Casual friendships are harder as, due to my difficult nature, a social miss-step on either side can stall things before they've got going.

I have a bit of a dilemma on my hands so i thought I'd canvas opinions from some less neurotic folk. In this situation what would you do?

I have a friend. We were in a lefty group together. I was Equalities Officer. He disagreed with how I handled some sexist behaviour from another member. We fell out over it. Probably not irreparably. I.E: Neither of us has said anything to the other so terrible it couldn't be taken back. We haven't seen each other for a bit. He's now coming to town.

In general I like this person but, if I'm honest, I'm still a little bit angry with him. If we meet there may be some awkwardness between us. I can't work out if I like him enough to weather the awkwardness and repair the friendship or not.

I've been invited to a party which he will be at. Should I go?

[Downfall]

Well, the question is whether or not you'd like to go to the party. If you do, then it sounds as if the situation is manageable.

I do also fret if I feel there is tension with someone, but as it's a party you won't have to be 1:1 with him the whole time, so it's probably the easiest way to get over the first meeting.

[dashoflime]

Thanks Downfall, that makes a lot of sense.

I probably can't get to this party anyway because of money but your right, if I did it would probably be manageable. The next time a similar opportunity comes up I will probably take it.

I get so anxious about these things though