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So who would agree with Gabrielle Reece?

(34 Posts)
DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 13-Apr-13 07:47:15

I know what responses I'd get on the feminist board (the same what I'm thinking) but does anyone actually agree with her?

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 13-Apr-13 08:32:45

Who is she?

flaminghoopsaloohlah Sat 13-Apr-13 08:53:41

Id agree with her that its important women know what makes them happy...but the tone made me think that in her all encompasding opinion that men being the master is what women really want. How the hell does she know? If she's happy then great! But different thongs make different people happy.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 13-Apr-13 08:55:36

Oh, sorry. Ex-volley ball professional and mode saying that being submissive saved her marriage.

ohtobecleo Sat 13-Apr-13 08:56:44

I think this is a 'horses for courses' issue.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 13-Apr-13 08:56:45

My take is if it requires someone to surrender who they are than it's not meant to be saved. It being the relationship.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 13-Apr-13 08:59:30

hmm interesting..
I didnt read it as a bad thing at all.
women and men are fundamentally different. I think that what she was actually saying was that for a partnership between a man and a woman to survive you should allow thise natural differences to occur rather than to fight against them.

BerthaKitt Sat 13-Apr-13 09:02:25

'Natural differences' being that women serve and men rule? That doesn't feel natural to me.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 13-Apr-13 09:03:37

I don't think anyone, male or female, should be 'submissive' at any time. Cooperative, flexible, considerate.... but never 'submissive'. As for 'women and men are fundamentally different'.... hmm ... we're all created equal.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 13-Apr-13 09:05:06

Well, yes we are fundamentally different but that doesn't mean we're not equal. Being different doesn't mean being a skivvy.

Thisisaeuphemism Sat 13-Apr-13 09:09:34

She's an idiot.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 13-Apr-13 09:15:54

We're not fundamentally different at all. We're biologically different but that's where it ends. The rest of the 'fundamental differences' are largely artificial social/cultural/traditional constructs.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Sat 13-Apr-13 12:05:35

Ridiculous. It becomes a parent/child relationship which is not a marriage. Even parents respect that their children should have some autonomy and individuality. Surrendering to your husband in all things just removes your autonomy and free will. It would reduce or remove conflict, because there would be no room for disagreement.

EggsEggSplat Sat 13-Apr-13 12:10:50

We have had a few threads on here before where someone has come on to promote the 'surrendered wife' thing. Didn't find many takers, as far as I recall...

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 13-Apr-13 12:34:59

Is it a 'Christian Right' thing? Always strikes me that organised religion in various guises has a sick obsession with coercing women into accepting 'surrender'. How long did it take us to get 'obey' out of the buggering marriage vows!!?

Theenemy Sat 13-Apr-13 12:41:39

Never heard of her her but if that's what she wants that's up to her

Gales Sat 13-Apr-13 12:56:58

I'm not sure about complete submission, but I think a lot of women are happy in/would like to have far more traditional women's roles than current feminist thinking will allow them to admit to.

For example, I know a lot of feminist women striving to be successful in careers for appearances sake when what they'd really like is to be SAHM. Not all WOHM by any means, but a good proportion of them.

As with everything, if it's right for her, then it's right.

flaminghoopsaloohlah Sat 13-Apr-13 13:15:58

Cogito - it is a very Evangelical Christian Right thing - using various biblical verses cherry picked and taken out of their real context to subjugate women.

Thisisaeuphemism Sat 13-Apr-13 13:19:27

And a lot of women would be happy in a far less traditional role than current societal constructs allow.

She's not just saying its right for her. She's promoting her book to tell us it's right for us.

Imagine bringing up your daughters in this way- yeah, just do what your brother says because he's got a cock.

expatinscotland Sat 13-Apr-13 13:22:36

She's married to a guy called Laird. 'Nuff said.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 13-Apr-13 13:36:54

"I think a lot of women are happy in/would like to have far more traditional women's roles than current feminist thinking will allow them to admit to. "

WTF? We're living in an age where the TV is full of programmes about baking, crafts and sewing, WAG is seen as a legitimate and enviable career choice and people are moaning like crazy that the High Income Child Benefit Charge is 'forcing women back to work'. Feminist thinking is struggling to get air-time, frankly.

EggsEggSplat Sat 13-Apr-13 13:41:57

Being a SAHM or having a more 'traditional' role is not the same as abdicating all responsibility and switching your brain off so that your husband can make all the decisions for you, which seems to be what the surrendered wife thing involves.

You can be a SAHM and still be a completely equal partner in the relationship (if your OH is a normal, reasonable person, that is, rather than a controlling/misogynistic/dictatorial type).

Viviennemary Sat 13-Apr-13 13:47:57

I don't think it's a question of women being submissive. If you get two people who are both dominant characters then sparks quite often fly. That's not to say the relationship can't work. It can. But there has to be give and take. Not one person being submissive and the other dominant. But if people want to be submissive that's up to them. But it wouldn't suit me.

But I disagree with this feminist idea that all women want to work ever longer hours and have careers and get to 'the top' . They don't. Like maybe a lot of men don't either. They want a life balance.

Theenemy Sat 13-Apr-13 13:48:00

Cogito, does feminist thinking say there is something wrong with women baking and sewing? I've seen that bakery show, one of the judges is a man and many of the contestants are men.

EggsEggSplat Sat 13-Apr-13 13:56:27

Vivienne - can you show me a feminist who says all women want to work long hours and get to the top? As far as I am aware, feminism is about equal rights/treatment/opportunities so that people of both genders can make their own choices about work/life balance. Feminist-influenced places like Scandinavia lead the way in family-friendly working policies so that both parents can easily combine work and spending time with their families.

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