Long story short.
I have two young children with a 3rd one due in October.
We have always had our ups and downs but I am not sure how much longer of the current I can take.
I've gladly done everything at home for my husband as he works long hours in London. I gave up my work to look after our girls with a view to going back after. Yes, I find it tedious and lonely, but it was the best thing financially.
I hardly see my DH during the week and at weekends we rarely do anything together. We don't really even talk much anymore.
Anyway, things took a turn for the worse when out of the blue I found out I was pregnant again a couple of months ago.
He wanted me to get a termination, but I could not see good enough reasons to go through with it.
So I have kept the pregnancy but have also become invisable. He pretty much ignores me day and night even though I continue to do things for him. He has moods (this goes way back) that last for a week or so without saying a word to me.
I have no friends where we live (we have always moved so he can be closer to work) and no support. I do feel alone but him being like this especially in pregnancy is driving me mad.
He complains about everything I do or does things like refuse to eat a dinner I have spent ages cooking or say he doesn't want his sandwiches anymore which I get up at 6am to make. (I'm fine with that but I know these little things are out of spite)
He goes around the house grumbling or picking at tiny things, even if I have been cleaning all day. I walk on eggshells all the time he is around and I am really miserable.
I have been staying at my mums for a week or s with the kids as we both thoguht it was a good idea to get a little break but I have called him each day for the kids to speak to him and he hardly has two words to say to us.
He doesn't have much time for the kids either, though he does obviously love them to bits.
Worst of all, for these past 2 weeks I have not missed or thought of him one bit.
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Frecklesandspecs · 12/04/2013 16:46
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