I've posted on here before about my sister. She is in her late 20s and is a chronic alcoholic. We had a very happy childhood in a civilised religious family and no-one knows how we all got here - but we're here. 10 years plus and she has never had a steady job, lost all her friends, and constantly drinks. My parents are in despair but finally took the steps to get her her own flat as her living with them was causing serious problems which had an affect on their health too. I have had to stop calling her as I physically and mentally cannot bear watching her do this. It is having an effect on my family too as I get into such moods after speaking to her. Her mental health is deteriorating - it's so worrying.
Anyway, for the last few years, I still used to send her a card and quite generous presents for Christmas and birthdays which I think she appreciated but am sure she ended up losing the gifts. She has got so bad that I am not sure she will even treat her gifts properly now. I don't even know what she likes - basically because her only interest and purpose in life is to drink. she knows (i think) how serious it has become but is powerless.
I am not going to ask for advice on how to deal (like i did before) as i know all we can do is wait for her to realise what she is doing and be there for her when she does. It's her birthday coming up. I am going to buy her a card but should i get her a gift? if so, what on earth do i get her? i want to get her something that will make her realise she has to stop - like a self help book but she never reads anything. Or I should i just send her a card? I am sure she will be expecting something given my gifts in previous years. I will of course not be giving her money. I just don't want her to think i don't care and use that as another excuse to drink.
Grateful for your thoughts. And sorry if anyone else is going through the trauma of a loved one who is an alcoholic.
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Mamafoof · 11/04/2013 09:01
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