I really feel like I could do with some advice.
My ex husband was an alcoholic and quite abusive when we were together so we naturally split up got divorced etc. for the last 4-5 years he has been seeing our dc's now and again. (he would love to see them more but over 100 miles distance and he doesn't drive). Because of the alcohol not to mention regular visits(daily) form prostitutes etc I have always been reluctant for the kids dd7 ds5 to be alone with him as he is not very responsible having said that he loves the kids like crazy. So any overnight access he has had I've always been present. In December I decided to let him have the kids over night as they really wanted that too and I obviously wanted them to have a relationship without me being there. So they stayed and it all went well. So kids were excited to spend boxing day with him and sleepover too. The kids are quite young and when they arrived my ex had his "girlfriend" a Brazilian non English speaking lady there and introduced the kids and said I'm going to marry her etc. kids were confused but just carried on as kids do, my problem is that the 2nd overnight visit that the kids had with their dad this ow was there and the relationship was not serious at that point as they had only spent 2 weeks together in brazil and now she's moved in with him. Where do my kids fit in. Do I let them go and stay with their dad and ow who may or may not stick around. Or do I prevent contact at his house until I'm satisfied this is going to be a long term stable relationship.
I know the kids and dad should be able to carry on but I don't know if having to go to there dads in this situation is any good for them, advice appreciated. Please help
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Schoolholidays · 10/04/2013 14:12
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