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How to approach dh's erection problems?

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Ashoething · 10/04/2013 09:15

Our sex life has not been great for at least 5 years tbh. I would like it a lot more than he does. We usually do it once every couple of weeks-I would like it 3 times a week. Talked about it a lot and dh always promises he will make more effort but it never lasts.

We have tried Viagra-made him hard but didn't increase libido,dressing up,role play,toys etc but he always just moans he is too tired.

He is 10 years older than me and I have noticed the last few times we have had sex that he has had trouble keeping his erection. I am worried about how to broach this. I don't want to be in a sexless marriage-I feel very unattractive and invisible when I am constantly rejected

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Ashoething · 10/04/2013 11:45

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meditrina · 10/04/2013 11:49

Has he been to his GP?

You need to start by establishing if there is a (fixable) physical problem.

If there isn't, then it's either naturally low libido or simply at his sexual interest is no longer in you. How is your relationship aside from sex?

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Ashoething · 10/04/2013 12:32

I have mentioned him going to gp before-he got the Viagra from an online chemist. He is very over weight-I am too tbh-and I think this also has an effect but when I try and cook a bit healthier or reduce portions he moans.

Our relationship is not great-lots of issues mainly over money. We rarely spend time together either. I think we need counselling but I know he would never go for it-I suspect he is depressed too but he think mh issues are for "weak" people.