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Hand holding please

(7 Posts)
Georgebooboo Mon 08-Apr-13 15:45:38

Hi, I've done a couple of threads since my husband left but not sure sure how u link them sorry. Long and short of it is he left me with a small baby weeks ago and that's the end of our marriage. He's clearly moved on without a second thought, I'm just finding it hard to forget what we had along with dealing with everything else on my own. I know there's someone else which makes things worse..
I just need to know it gets better ... And I need to know I won't feel this hurt forever. Everyone says your so much better off without him, he didn't deserve u.. But u can't just switch off ure feelings..

LyonsDemesne Mon 08-Apr-13 15:50:54

I'll hold your hand until someone with wise words comes along

skaboy Mon 08-Apr-13 15:54:24

Maybe not wise words but I can testify it gets better. When you're thinking more rationally about it you'll realise that he didn't respect you, and you'll lose your respect for him for what he has done. That will make you less likely to want him back - it does take time for the emotions to wear off though I'm afraid before you see it like that.

Also you'll never be able to trust him quite like you used to and you'll realise that its much better living your life away from someone who you don't trust.

That's the place I'm in now a couple of months down the line.

Good luck

Lonecatwithkitten Mon 08-Apr-13 16:04:09

It gets better - I am nearly a year down the line. You keep getting up each morning, you gradually deal with 'the stuff' and then slowly a new life emerges.
As Skaboy has said you will start to see various things about your relationship with more clarity and realise that it wasn't as good as you thought - painful to think of now I know. This gets easier the further you get away from the relationship.
Then one day you will look back on what you have achieved and be proud of yourself and this will help to move you further forward.
So just keep getting up each morning, keep logging on to Mumsnet, just plod through sorting things out and enjoy your baby.

Georgebooboo Tue 09-Apr-13 18:32:57

Thank you for your replies its good to know things get better. Can't see the light at the end of the tunnel at the moment but taking one day at a time x

ScumbagCollegeDropout Wed 10-Apr-13 03:22:14

Hi OP.

I echo all that has been said so far.

I am coming up to first year of separation.

It was very hard at first. I went through a rollercoaster of emotions. But it does and will get better.

I now have a lovely boyfriend and am the happiest I have been in years.

Hang in there smile

Midwife99 Wed 10-Apr-13 03:34:41

Ah you must feel really shocked. Were there problems that you were aware of before? Was this out of the blue? thanks

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