My wonderful DP is in a difficult position, and I'd appreciate any advice.
His parents are young (mid 60s) but both unwell with terminal illnesses (MS and early stage Alzheimers). They currently live in their own home with support from meals on wheels and carers twice a day, but they don't seem to be coping. My DP has just got back from his weekly visit and is very concerned that they're not taking their medication or keeping the house clean and tidy.
We are expecting our first baby in July. I have antenatal depression and have had to give up work. I'm thoroughly ashamed to say that I am not able to help the situation, and in fact make it much worse. I am putting a huge strain on our finances, and my DP often has to mop me up when I am unable to cope with daily life.
What can we do? PiL understandably don't want to go into sheltered accommodation or a home. We can't afford more care. DP suggests moving in together, which would mean all of us moving in to a new house near where they currently live - I like his parents but am not sure I could live with them, I'm not sure how a newborn baby will fit into the mix, moving someone with Alzheimers is not great, & neither DP nor I would choose to live in that area, although we could commute to work.
I am also worried that DP feels like he is the only solution to all of our problems - that he is responsible for his parents, and for me, and soon for our child, too.
I just don't know what we can do to make things better - does anyone have any practical solutions or ideas for what can happen next?
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