Ok, so here goes.... Im just hoping for some outside perspective really.
Bit of background, Im with dp just over 2yrs and a few months pg, I have a 3yo ds too.
I dont really like dp drinking at the moment, he doesnt drink very much, a few beers here and there, and hes not a bad drunk or anything, can be mildly annoying but hey so can I, and I wouldnt even notice that if I was drinking too!!
Anyway... Dp sometimes wets the bed, hes seen his gp for this a few times, and the diagnosis by the gp is stress.. this is fine, very annoying but we cope ok with it now.
BUT... if he drinks theres a very strong chance he'll have an accident that night. This I have a problem with at the moment, as I am exhausted between being preg and looking after ds, and I dont think its too much to ask for him to not drink for this reason. I dont have a problem with the drinking, just the bedwetting :(.
So, last night he got a few beers in and had one just before I got home with ds(around 8pm).. I was tired, emotional and angry, so I told him he could go after ds goes to bed, Ive had enough. he left and Text me asking wtf???
I replied that I was tired, emotional and needed a sleep and that if he wanted to drink he could do it somewhere else, that I felt like crap and would be waking up all night. He said hed stay in his brothers, to which I replied to enjoy their great night and Id just sit in worrying about coping with 2 kids on my own, that he could pick up some stuff tomorrow... he asked what, that I had said I didnt want him there, so we spoke on the phone, he said he could come home so I asked if he did would he be drinking, he replied that he would prob relax with a couple of cans. I told him not to come back so...
Later on I got a text asking why am I treating him like this, I replied this morning asking why he chose to drink instead of coming home, that he had made his choice and I wouldnt be treating him like anything for a while after that...
So, I dont know what the hell is going on now, if I am being unreasonable or if he is, if Im seriously overreacting or what, my heads a mess :(
Hes great in every other way, does so much for me, this is about our only problem but its getting to be a big one lately
Thanks for reading if you got this far, I didnt mean to go on but its good to get it off my chest
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spongebobmum · 06/04/2013 11:06
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