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pop ups on computer for dating sites and chat to girls does this mean my partner has been viewing these sites?

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racheael76 Wed 03-Apr-13 21:20:33

On google ads keep popping up advertising dating sites with pictures of women also i went out last night and today noticed on partners i pad on puffin an advertisement popped up to chat to other girls does this mean my partner has been viewing or logging into these sites ? is there a way for me to find out? on his i pod once i clicked the history and noticed he had viewed porn.i never told him it did upset me as it was men about 60 with girls which looked 18/19/20 years.

zwischenzug Wed 03-Apr-13 21:26:49

Some routers will show you the history of web sites that have been requested. It sounds likely he is logging on to porn sites, but ads popping up isn't really proof.

TricksyBee Wed 03-Apr-13 21:35:58

Not necessarily, it can be due to targeted ads which try and lure people in based on whether they think they'll fit the target demographic. When I was doing research for a project I was looking at a lot of army recruitment pages. Google decided I was a young, testosterone fuelled man and my targeted ads and pop ups became dating/chat/porn sites and join the marines type stuff. I'd never looked at any naughty pages and it was my personal computer so this can happen when someone hasn't been looking at anything they shouldn't.

SueFawley Wed 03-Apr-13 21:55:39

If he's got an iPad, you can check his history in a less obvious way than just clicking the history in the browser itself, and in a way that many users don't know about when they delete their browsing history.

Go to Settings>Safari>scroll the page to the bottom and click on Advanced>Website Data. This will show history, unless he's savvy enough to have deleted from there recently.

Obviously it's up to you whether you want to do this or not, as TricksyBee said, the ads can be targetting wrong.

Ouchmyhead Thu 04-Apr-13 01:54:11

Not necessarily, it could mean you have a virus or have just been on a dodgy website. I watched a US tv series online and now my computer constantly pops up with half naked girls. Just ask him, and check his history if you want for extra reassurance.

rhondajean Thu 04-Apr-13 07:57:44

Just a note - I typed a website address wrongly yesterday (one letter out) and got taken straight to a "meet local women for sex" site.

I was shock

I obviously didn't click on through the site but you can usually see from history if it's been a site that someone has actually browsed through or just been to the home page, which i would count as accidental fat fingered

ChunkyMonkeyMother Thu 04-Apr-13 08:03:35

Those ads can be targeted at a lot of "male-based" websites, my brother used to be obsessed with cars and every time he'd been on the computer there were hundreds of porny/chat/dating pop ups - full history checked, nothing but cars.

NotTreadingGrapes Thu 04-Apr-13 08:08:50

No. On my old computer I used to get them popping up here, on MN. I could never click on any thread about sex, or relationships without Svetlana appearing and offering to service me live on a webcam.

Dp has never used that computer. (and I'm not into Svetlanas)

Someone geeky said it was malware but I never got rid of it. On new puter, which dp does use, I can click on anything ta-dah and no Svetlana.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 04-Apr-13 08:15:34

Why don't you just ask him? Why is your first instinct to snoop about and check his browsing history? If there are problems in your relationship, if you don't trust him, if he has a track-record of doing something similar in the past then a face-to-face conversation has to be on the cards.... judge if he's being honest by his reaction. If everything in the garden is rosy, even more reason to ask a straight question.

SparklyVampire Thu 04-Apr-13 08:18:39

I had the same when looking at game cheat websites for the DC, if you don't have a good anti virus on your PC then you can pick up filth quite easily.

Naysa Thu 04-Apr-13 09:42:50

It doesn't always mean that he has been on them.

I downloaded a movie blush and since have been bombarded with ads for meeting Russian and Asian woman.

I also use a few sites directed towards women eg hair and makeup sites and get ads for dating sites hmm because you must obviosuly be desperately looking for a man if you want to look nice

Dp has never used my laptop, nor has anyone else so it's definitely all my things popping up.

Are you having problems anyway that would make you suspicious?

MadAboutHotChoc Thu 04-Apr-13 09:51:04

Does he use porn?

HellonHeels Thu 04-Apr-13 10:18:10

I get targeted ads which are based on stuff I've looked at online (clothes, sports gear); I also get facebook ads which seem to be targeted at 40s female demographic-type eg hair, makeup, cosmetic procedures (!); weightloss.

When my FB profile stated I was interested in men and women I got a lot of ads for lesbian holidays.

My DH and I both play a stupid FB game; I don't seem to get ads on it but DH gets ads for dating sites (message: middle aged gamer men must be single)

i don't get pop up ads of any kind though. Perhaps it's dependent on the types of site visited. I wouldn't be surprised if porn viewing resulted in aggressive ad-targeting including pop ups.

maddy68 Thu 04-Apr-13 16:01:30

no not at all - junk email can trigger pop ups - in fact attachments or online games can too,

LadyApricot Thu 04-Apr-13 17:06:12

Hmm I know sites can pick up key words you've typed and target ads in that way, Not just from the search bar but messages on Facebook etc.
I remember being on my dh's MySpace account years ago and it had an ad for 'meet chubby girls in your area now!' I was wondering what he'd been saying about me in his messages to his friends after that!

racheael76 Fri 05-Apr-13 09:40:26

thank you for your help everyone whos messaged .you are a great support.sounds reasuring its not evidence i feel much better.thank you again.x

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yetmorecrap Mon 12-Mar-18 10:40:22

No, it’s cookie related , I checked our router at one point and can see in full whats looked at (private browsing or not) you only have to see the amount of tracking cookies related to a single web page view (including mumsnet by the way) and you will realise why you get so many targeted ads or in some cases spam . It’s all about demographics, my h gets over 40 dating, funeral plans, cars and shit loads of bitcoin for some reason, I get beauty stuff, business related things and insurance stuff

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