Having an absolute nightmare that I never ever expected to happen (naive me). Been together 15+ years - since University - and married for last two and two DC 2yrs and 10 weeks. Had to visit in laws today together and tell them we were separating. With a new baby. I am absolutely devastated and swinging from feeling ok, hysterical, sad, angry and desperate for him to love me again within minutes. My reliable lovely bloke partner who always loved me and would have done anything for me doesn't want me anymore ( I know that sounds pathetic) and. The worst part is the regret that I feel as I have been so so difficult to be with and really have not treated him well or respectfully, or with love, for the past few years. Conversely to many of the threads that I read here I have been so unreasonable and he has basically had enough. I have very much been 'in control' of the relationship and the decisions made and I know realise, through counselling and lots of talking that my criticism/nagging etc has destroyed his love for me. Either that and/or OW and /or mid life crisis and/or some sort of breakdown - I'm not too sure. I've avoided focusing on these possibilities as I felt they may be a way of absolving responsibility from me which isn't really fair on him although I do have my suspicions. This probably sounds jumbled, am sat with the baby, H in the spare room which absolutely kills me, feeling so so lonely and desperate. Please someone tell me is gets better as I am struggling to see right now that it does despite reading some pretty inspiring posts from other women.
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DH leaving me - please tell me it gets easier
Easternightmare · 02/04/2013 23:24
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