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This doesn't look good does it?

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Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 19:37:33

My dh left for work at 5pm, 10 mins later I get a text from him 'Hi sexy, get your boobs out'. I just replied with a ? And had no reply.

He never sends text like that to me thank god so I'm thinking it was meant for someone else. Why send me a text like that after just leaving the house 10 minutes before.

It looks suspicious doesn't it? Or else it's a pathetic attempt at spicing things up confused

CandlestickOlder Tue 02-Apr-13 19:38:44

Oh dear hmm

It's certainly very odd

kinkyfuckery Tue 02-Apr-13 19:39:11

The fact that he hasn't replied since makes me think it's more suspicious.

When is he due home? Do you usually talk/text at all whilst he's at work? Any other signs that he could be playing away from home?

LynetteScavo Tue 02-Apr-13 19:40:00

Ewww...are you sure he's gone to work?

I would so be looking forward to his excuse when he gets home. hmm

sleeton Tue 02-Apr-13 19:46:47

Have you checked to see if he is at work?

Uppatreecuppatea Tue 02-Apr-13 19:47:11

He's just been nicked and is probably shitting himself somewhere.

I also can't help but comment that he sounds like a real charmer. hmm

Poor you!

TheOrchardKeeper Tue 02-Apr-13 19:47:27

even if that is spicing things up then it doesn't look good grin

But seriously...I'd be trying to find out whatever I could. Has he been protective of his phone/laptop/computer?

Late from work/going to extra meeting etc? Has he seemed normal lately?

Hope you're ok brew

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 19:48:59

No clues to say he has been playing away at all. His workmate picked him up in work vehicle so I know he's at work. He's only doing a 4 hour shift so due home just after 9pm. I personally wouldn't have thought he had time to be cheating tbh but I just don't get this text.

And yes the fact he didn't reply is making me even more suspicious.

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 19:50:28

And my initial thought at get your boobs out was ewww too! Even if it was meant for me. Yuck.

CardiffUniversityNetballTeam Tue 02-Apr-13 19:50:28

Are you sure it was him that text you and not one of his "hilarious" workmates playing a joke?

CandlestickOlder Tue 02-Apr-13 19:51:42

He'll have the next few hours to think of an excuse so get ready for a wave of bullshittery.

In the meantime I'd start going through his stuff looking for any clues of adultery.

I suppose - maybe - this could be an in joke amongst guy friends. Referring to a mate's man boobs or something. And texting him if picking him up or something? As in 'I'm on my way, see you in five'. Because it's a bloody horrible 'flirty' line. But strange he hasn't responded.

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 19:52:17

He's not particularly protective of his phone. He plays some pool game on it but that's it really.

TheOrchardKeeper Tue 02-Apr-13 19:52:36

Do you plan on just asking him straight out when he gets back?

You can usually tell a lot from their initial fumbling for excuses/cover ups (if they are lying).

Sorry you're having such a shaky evening. I can't imagine how unnerving that has to be. Wasn't the nicest of texts either!!

Cheeky git could at least reply hmm

CostaTen Tue 02-Apr-13 19:52:37

Sorry but people always find the time if they want to cheat.

No doubt that this text was meant for someone else. So sorry OP.

ohtobecleo Tue 02-Apr-13 19:52:37

What's the bet he comes home with a been cooking up for the last four hours excuse that one of his workmates was playing a trick on him with his phone.

Hope it turns out to be innocent but it doesn't look good sad

tillyann2013 Tue 02-Apr-13 19:55:29

If this was my dh, I would automatically presume it was a joke by one of his mates. He might not even know about it?.. Or am I too trusting?

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 19:55:48

I felt sick when I read it. I'm just going to ask him straight out about it. No point beating about the bush hopefully he's not been beating about someone else's bush

TheOrchardKeeper Tue 02-Apr-13 19:55:56

Things is, most people who'd genuinely been texting a friend as a joke or whatever would've instantly replied to say something along the lines of woops, sorry, followed by brief explanation...otherwise of course it looks dodgy.

This lack of reply is what's weird about it. He must know how that sounds...

So I would prepare for a wave of BS & a dismissive afterword or even an attempt to make out it was nothing & to stop overthinking things etc.

Hope we're wrong for your sake though! I'd just be cautious, to say the least.

TheOrchardKeeper Tue 02-Apr-13 19:58:20

^but if it was a joke to one of your friends...and your DP texted you with '?' surely you'd want to very quickly clear it up and explain so they're not stewing, as OP obviously was? It's all a tad weird from an outisde point of view to be honest...

CandlestickOlder Tue 02-Apr-13 20:03:00

I think there is plenty of doubt! It could be completely innocent. Hope it is OP smile

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 20:03:20

His workmate was driving the van so wouldn't be able to text, I thought of that. Just need to wait and see what he has to say about it.

pregnantpause Tue 02-Apr-13 20:04:38

I'm sorry to post this, but, I know a man, a relative in fact who is cheating. He leaves in the work van with the 'boys' they drop him off and pick him up. The deal is whenever each gets a woman lined up (they work in houses fitting kitchens, so on estates where they'll be working for a few weeks) the other boys will cover and get the extra work done. They're all in on it and sickeningly go on holidays as families when at home with their wivessad I told one of the wives once and was shot as a messenger, not believed and now they hate me.
They always find time to cheat, and men are often wiling to cover for each othersad
Good luck tonight.

digerd Tue 02-Apr-13 20:06:28

Would he have already arrived at work in 10 minutes or still be in the car with his mate?

tillyann2013 Tue 02-Apr-13 20:09:44

I really don't think it sounds dodgy at all, his phone fell out of his pocket, he went to shop. His mate found it and thought it was be hilarious to text his wife, like a teenage boy would! Hope it's this scenario op and nowt else. X

Maybe83 Tue 02-Apr-13 20:09:48

No doesn't sound good at all does he have on line mobile billing or account registered I d be logging on or demanding he does when he comes home to show me his call txt history...

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