What were you expecting after one day? A full inbox and half a dozen offers to be taken to Michelin stared restaurants?
Remember, internet dating is just another iron in the fire, it is not there to replace all existing forms of meeting people and you rarely have overnight success.
I used match.com several years ago, I probably met well over 30 different women before I met ?the one?. It will take a few dates before you find your radar so to speak, by that I mean the ability to spot the timewasters and oddballs. After a few initial fruitcakes I say with confidence that all the women I met were smart, funny, attractive and very interesting people, even if the spark or chemistry was not present there was still enough common ground to have a great evening out, I have since become very good friends with a number of my ?failed? dates and at the very least it opens up your social life in new and unexpected directions.
You also have to be proactive yourself, I could be wrong but your OP reads as if you have just loaded up a profile and you are now sitting back waiting for the offers to flow in. It does not work that way, and if you have any notions of ?the guy should make the first move? then you really are putting yourself at a disadvantage.
Also, I would drop the ?he must love cats? bits from your profile; although it is inaccurate, it does conjure up the stereotype of ?mad cat women? which is an instant turn off.
My advice is to set up a separate email address just for dating.
Write a profile, be honest, get a trusted friend to read it, mention what you like in life, your passions, don?t be negative, its amazing how many people list things they don?t like in a prospective partner, they just come across as high maintenance. Include lots of recent photos, preferably you being natural, not some staged black and white art house studio shot (it does happen!). Playing tennis once on holiday 4 years ago is not a hobby and try and avoid clichés like ?I love to relax on the sofa with a good bottle of wine and a DVD? , everyone likes that !!!
After initially exchanging a few emails, move on to chatting on msn and then on the telephone, seriously, don?t waste weeks writing essays to each other and building up your expectations only to find when you meet there is absolutely no attraction. Chatting on the phone early on really helps you decide on whether you want to take something further or not, if that bloke who wrote the thoughtful, witty and flattering emails can?t string a sentence together on the phone you are going to have a long evening if you meet in person.
Trust your gut feeling
Always make first dates a midweek drink after work or a weekend light lunch, never go for a full dinner until you are sure get on.
Tell a friend were you are going.
If you find yourself in a situation where the guy is keen and you are not, just a polite text after the date saying ?you had a nice time but no longer want things further? is considered good form.
Don?t play games, or follow any other glossy mag inspired ?rules of engagement?, if you really like the chap, and he had made his feelings clear, just let him know, it makes life so much easier.