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How did you and your partner get together?

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OkayHazel Tue 02-Apr-13 02:54:29

Lots of these threads can be a bit sad, so I thought I'd ask a happy question for a change!

DP and I met as students. He went to school with one of my friends, and we were introduced in our first year. Then in second year, I moved in with the girl and he was just around my house lots - I didn't think much of it, never got dressed, just went about my business as usual and if I'm honest found him quite annoying. He asked me out a few times and I always said no.

Fast forward a couple of years and DP and I had both lost touch with the girl I lived with, but remained good friends. We are both really into football, and if you'll remember last summer, City and United were drawing for the Premiership title right until the end. Well, I am a blue and he's a red - so we bickered and trash talked about the football, which grew into lots and lots of flirting over the summer.

It gets to a point where we are in really close contact and find ourselves in the same bar, but quite tired and want to go home (walking distance from this place). Both of us pick up a pizza, and he comes back to my place. We watch a bit of TV, generally muck about like drunken idiots and he is the perfect gentleman the entire time, totally respecting my boundaries despite the obvious sexual tension. As he is leaving, he holds my hand and asks 'please will you say yes this time if I ask you out?' - and I did!

I then freaked out completely - he was my friend, and I wasn't sure if I actually fancied him. We'd planned a Saturday date, but I cancelled due to cold feet. Plucked up the courage to go out on the Monday instead. We did cocktails and dancing and at the end of the night sat and talked about us. I explained that he was too important to me to be a fling, and I wanted something serious. He agreed. (I then got more drunk and told him, only half jokingly, how many babies we're going to have and what the dog will be called).

And it's all worked out well since!

Would love to hear your romance stories too! How did you meet? What was your first date like? Did you ever get the feeling that he/she was the one?

I'm very much still in the honeymoon phase and very loved up, so sorry if this thread is incredibly soppy and that's not your thing, (I'm in my early 20s, childless and over the moon!) but I'd love to hear your romance stories too!

Verbalpunchbag Tue 02-Apr-13 05:02:57

In a nightclub, I was very drunk, not very romantic I know. smile

Southsearocks Tue 02-Apr-13 06:23:16

I had a big cocktail party at my house. A friend brought him with her. Thought he was a nice guy but too busy to properly chat.

A few months later a load of us went cheese rolling. She asked if I could bring him in my car with our camping stuff. We chatted all the way there. He flew down the hill without breaking anything. He then drunkenly chatted up another friend and I felt a pang of jealousy. That's when I realised something was going on.

Long backstory of bad relationships but my wall was up. It had started to crack a little. Nothing happened that weekend but we carried on texting for a while and then he asked me out for dinner and the cinema. We ended the night as friends but I asked him over a couple of weeks later and, ahem, he ended up staying blush

Friend had cunningly set us up!

We've been together now nearly four years and have a proper little poppet to show for it, which in itself is a miracle as I was at the point of believing, fully, that I would never have children.

Very happy for you OkayHazel. Sounds like it could be a the start of a long and happy time together!

Southsearocks Tue 02-Apr-13 19:54:30

Oh no, did I kill a thread? Soz OH grin

issypiggle Tue 02-Apr-13 20:00:49

my dp, works with an ex of mine. and i've known him for years. saw him occasionally and when i split up with dd's dad, dp was there as support, a few months later he split with his ex, and i was there for him. he asked me out for a drink and 2 years later we're still together, moved in and he's more like a dad to my dd than her own dad is.

Buttonsbythesea Tue 02-Apr-13 20:01:17

Internet dating site. Been together nearly 5 years.

Daisypops Tue 02-Apr-13 20:14:56

Me and my exdp got together when he came to arrest my brother!!! blush

Hassled Tue 02-Apr-13 20:19:06

Work - he was a colleague, but I was married with 2 kids and tbh there was no instant attraction or anything. A couple of years later Ex and I had split and the friendship developed.

Hassled Tue 02-Apr-13 20:20:00

Daisypops shock! Is your brother OK about it now?

TheOrchardKeeper Tue 02-Apr-13 20:21:25

I asked my DP out...he was a friend of a friend & I just thought "Oh for god's sake, the worst that'll happen is he'll say no thanks".

I'm very glad I did as I'm now one very happy mumma grin

Betrayedbutsurvived Tue 02-Apr-13 20:37:14

I was on holiday with my then 15 year old daughter in a flintstones themed karaoke bar. Some much older sleazeball tried to chat her up and I sent him running for the exit with his tail between his legs and a flea in his ear. Dh asked what on earth I said to him as he looked so panicked running away, we chatted for a while, then walked us "home" and we sat on the balcony talking all night while dd went to bed.

I saw him around a couple of times after that, but couldnt really spend much time together as it wasnt fair on dd. He asked for my number and phoned me practically the minute my plane touched down, we've been together 13 years, now, and it's our tenth wedding anniversary in a few weeks time.

After two complete arsehole ex's I still can't quite believe that I met someone so perfect completely by chance.

needastrongone Tue 02-Apr-13 20:42:11

At my brothers wedding 16 years ago. My brother married dh's sister so brother and sister married brother and sister iykwim? Probably not!!!

He's my perfect person. Two children, bi polar and a lot of good times and a few bad and he's still my perfect person.


LadyInPink Tue 02-Apr-13 20:44:46

At a friends wedding smile.

sad thing is that we are still together 14 years on and they are divorced

HootShoot Tue 02-Apr-13 20:46:16

Spookily similar to needastrongone! We met at my sisters wedding to her husband. My (now) husband is my sister's husband's brother, so two sisters marrying two brothers

needastrongone Tue 02-Apr-13 20:55:33

Hootshoot smile

Daisypops Tue 02-Apr-13 21:03:57

Yes hassled, he was ok about it. My brother was drunk when he arrested him but they got on ok!

HootShoot Tue 02-Apr-13 21:06:45

People always find it very odd needastrongone - and ask me strange questions like 'do you fancy your BIL?!' confused

needastrongone Tue 02-Apr-13 21:11:18

Well I certainly don't fancy my sister in law!!

Certainly makes Christmas and birthday gatherings easier in some respects, if large, noisy and rather mad, being one big familysmile

idococktailshedoesbeer Tue 02-Apr-13 21:11:24

We met when we worked for the same company, but at opposite ends of the country. We spoke on the phone for two years and went from colleagues to friends to flirting. Then we went on our first date and finally met each other face to face. It was all a bit Gavin and Stacey in the early days!

IEatCakeInBed Tue 02-Apr-13 21:20:35

I met DH whilst on a hen-do in Spain (he was on a golfing weekend)... Been together 9 happy years now grin

tumbletumble Tue 02-Apr-13 21:22:29

We met at work - joined the company on the same day as graduates.

jinxdragon Tue 02-Apr-13 21:23:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Badvoc Tue 02-Apr-13 21:27:40

I started work at the same place.
Been together 18 years this year!

KatOD Tue 02-Apr-13 21:41:08

Met at work, we worked at different companies and were basically paid to argue with each other as we had the same technical specialisation (very geeky). After several failed attempts by our colleagues and years of being too incompetent to get together we were eventually set up about 11 years ago and are very happily married with a beautiful 17mo DD.

We're also still quite geeky, poor dear doesn't stand a chance!

MrsMillions Tue 02-Apr-13 21:46:00

We met via mutual friends at work, so rather boring, but there is a story in my family that is very sweet - my Dad's uncle married his son's mother-in-law after their respective spouses had died. They were very happy together for the years they had left, clearly whatever brought their children together (and they must have been married 40+ years by now) also worked for them.

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